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Blogger slams sexist double standards of parenthood in brilliant Instagram post

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There’s no point denying it: when it comes to parenting, men and women are judged by entirely different standards. It happens in Hollywood and in happens to everyone else too.

Now blogger Constance Hall, who has more than 800,000 followers on Facebook, has opened up about her own experiences with sexist parenting critics.

Taking to Instagram, she explained how she had been recently forced to change her daughter’s nappy in the park due to ill-equipped toilet facilities.

Despite ensuring she was far away from members of the public, Hall was soon approached by a woman who told her: "I saw you changing your daughter’s nappy, could you please use the change table next time."

 

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Hall explained the situation to the woman, but admitted that she still “felt like a loser” for being called out over her parenting skills.
 
A week later, she was at the park with her family when she found herself in the same situation. This time, however, she told her husband, Bill, that it was his turn to deal with the issue.
 
Just as his wife had done days earlier, he decided to change his child’s nappy right there on the grass. Only this time, when a group of women walked past, they stopped to praise him for being such a “good dad”.

“Bill felt like a legend,” said Hall. “The world went on… [and] I didn't think much of it because I am used to it. 

“I am used to being scrutinised for jobs that my husband is praised for.”
 
In the post, which has now garnered more than 5,000 likes, the blogger continued: “I am used to picking the kids up from school to judgmental looks about being late, while Bill is used to a red fucking carpet and a 12-piece band praising him for his heroic appearance at school pick up.

“That's the way we as a society are, we place so much pressure on women to be perfect and selfless while putting low parenting expectations on men.”

 

I had breakfast with a friend and of course Snow shat.  I went to the bathroom and there was no change table. No dramas the restaurant was in a park, I went very far away, put her on the grass and changed her bum.  No big deal.  30 minutes later a women approached me and said, "I saw you changing your daughters nappy, could you please use the change table next time" I said "there wasn't one"  She said "there is, it's in the disabled toilet and that's around the other corner"  I said "cool, she's probably not due for another shit for about 6 hours but I will act accordingly" I felt like a loser. The world went on.  The following weekend we were at the park, all of us. Rumi shat.. I told Bill that it was his turn, he put Rumi on the grass and changed his bum.  A group of women walked passed, one said.. "Aww good dad!!! That's what we like to see, get in there"  Bill felt like a legend. The world went on.  I didn't think much of it because I am used to it. I am used to being scrutinised for jobs that my husband is praised for. I am used to picking the kids up from school to judgmental looks about being late, while Bill is used to a red fucking carpet and a 12 piece band praising him for his heroic appearance at school pick up.  That's the way we as a society are, we place so much pressure on women to be perfect and selfless while putting low parenting expectations on men.  I am not saying quit the praise. I love seeing Bill get praised for the things he does for our kids. He is a good dad, why not celebrate him. But let's praise each other too, let's see a women talking on the phone while pushing her pram and think 'wow, she chose not to stay at home bidding on eBay smashing straight vodka. She chose to come to the park and be a magnificent mum'  Celebrations, high fives or just a complaint for all Queens today. Because Queening deserves a standing ovation.  Kindness puts a red carpet under every shitty arse and a 12 piece band at every late school drop off.  You just can't see it 

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Hall took care to point out that fathers do, of course, deserve praise – but so do mothers.

“Let's praise each other too,” she said. “Let's see a women talking on the phone while pushing her pram and think 'wow, she chose not to stay at home bidding on eBay smashing straight vodka. She chose to come to the park and be a magnificent mum'.

“Celebrations, high fives or just a complaint for all Queens today. Because queening deserves a standing ovation.”

Her words echo that of Bad Moms star Kristen Bell, who recently told NPR’s Scott Simon that she feels mothers face too much pressure to be ‘perfect’.

"When you have a baby, everything in your DNA says, 'I gotta do this right,'” she said.

“But what should go hand-in-hand in that – and doesn't often, or it's not reiterated enough to women – is that 'and it's OK if I don't, because I'm trying and that's all that matters.'”

Read more on Constance Hall's blog here

Images: @mrsconstancehall

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