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This Instagram post exposes the big problem with how women see themselves


Anyone with an Instagram account will be well-versed in the smoke and mirrors illusion that accompanies the majority of images in their feed.

From the seemingly endless stream of #sorrynotsorry holiday snaps, to the ubiquitous selfies and pictures of food, it can seem like everyone except ourselves is living their best lives, all of the time.

But in amongst the humble brags and carefully curated images there are a handful of Instagram users who are keen to highlight a more “real” version of events.

One of these is blogger Louise Aubery, who recently took to her feed to remind her 50,000 followers “not to be so harsh” on themselves when it comes to criticising their appearance, particularly in comparison to the filtered images they see on Instagram every day.

Sharing two identical images of herself pasted side by side, the Parisian science student used big white arrows to point out the differences between “what you see” and “what I see”.

⚡️ I am guilty. I am here to always be completely honest, because I feel social medias need more of it. | As much as I preach self love and truly made some progress accepting myself, there is something I really struggle with : pictures 👀 Whenever I see a picture of me, the first things which catches my eyes are my FLAWS. I always see what is wrong. "Too close". "My nose appears too big." "My legs look too white". "I look terrible" This is usually what follows when someone show me a picture they took of me 🤔 YET, I really do not look at people's flaws first when I look at a picture of someone else ! On the contrary, I tend to focus on their assets ❗️So why not do the same with yourself ? We really need to learn not to be so harsh on ourselves. It is not healthy. I am going to work on it, and I hope you will too. 💛 _____________________________________ ⚡️ Je plaide coupable. Vous savez que l'honnêteté est une valeur que je chérie; et je trouve que ca manque sur les réseaux sociaux. | Malgré que je prêche l'acceptance et l'amour de soi et que j'ai fait de réels progrès sur le sujet, il y a quelque chose avec lequel j'ai toujours beaucoup de mal : les photos 👀 A chaque fois que je vois une photo de moi, tout ce que je vois en premier sont mes défauts. Je vois toujours ce qui ne va PAS. "Trop proche" "Mon nez paraît trop gros" "J'ai l'air trop blanche" "Supprime" : ce sont généralement mes premières réactions après avoir vu une photo de moi 🤔 Pourtant, ce n'est pas du tout comme ça que je réagis quand je vois une photo de quelqu'un d'autre ! Au contraire, j'ai plutôt tendance à voir leurs atouts ❗️Alors pourquoi je l'applique-t-on pas à nous-même ? On doit vraiment apprendre à ne pas être aussi dur envers soi-même. Ce n'est pas sain. Je vais travailler dessus, et j'espère que vous aussi. 💛

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Aubery pointed to the “big smile”, “long legs” and “strong butt” that we would see when we first glanced at the image, and compared them to how she sees them – namely as a “big nose”, “back fact” and “cellulite”.

“I am here to always be completely honest, because I feel social media need more of it,” she wrote in the caption to the post.

“Whenever I see a picture of me, the first things which catches my eyes are my FLAWS,” she added. “I always see what is wrong.”

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The blogger went on to list the negative things she thinks about herself when seeing photos of her body, including "my nose appears too big”, “my legs look too white,” or – the thought that we’ve all had about ourselves at least once – “I look terrible”.

Aubery goes on to point out that she never thinks such negative things when seeing images of her fellow bloggers or friends on her feed, and instead focuses on their assets.

“So why not do the same with yourself?” she asked.

The image has garnered over 6,500 likes so far, with many of Aubery’s followers taking to the comments section to praise her for her honesty.

“I couldn't agree with your caption anymore, I feel the exact same way all the time… You’re beautiful!” wrote one user.

“No one is perfect,” added another. “We're all bent and cracked, some of us are even broken, but that just makes people stronger.”

And Aubery herself had an important message to share about self-acceptance.

“We really need to learn not to be so harsh on ourselves,” she wrote.

“It is not healthy. I am going to work on it, and I hope you will too.”


Images: Instagram



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