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Bride asks bridesmaids to pay for her designer dress, world gives up on weddings

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Weightloss demands, hair growth requests, excessive monetary contributions … narcissistic bride-to-be (NBB) stories are saturating the internet with a staggering frequency.

With each outrageous request, generally delivered via a corporate-sounding passive aggressive email, ‘that’s it,’ we tell ourselves. ‘We’ve surely stumbled on never-to-be-beaten new low.’

Yet, amazingly, our cringe capacity had yet to reach its full potential until we stumbled on the tale of a particularly brass-necked NBB, who has asked her bridesmaids to pay for her designer wedding dress.

Writing anonymously on Australian site Mamamia, the bride’s weary victim has exposed how a mounting cacophony of unreasonable behaviour accumulated in being asked for cash to kit the bride out in a AU$10,500 (£6,237) Marchesa gown.

The bridesmaid, calling herself Hayley, recounts an astonishing tale of her bride friend’s rage-worthy behaviour since getting engaged, beginning with a COB (close of business) demand for wedding cake research and ending (possibly also the friendship) in an unprecedented request for cash towards her expensive frock.

“Hey Hayley, How’s it going?” the first email goes. “I need some cake-maker suggestions by COB today please, Jase and I really want to get a wriggle on with this and need the contact details, price brackets, flavours and an idea of how prestigious the vendor is – in a table would be great. Excel is probably best please. Thanks!”

Sorry, what now?

Read more: ‘No one can be skinnier than me’ - bridesmaid leaks terrifying list of demands

As an English teacher, Hayley wasn’t exactly waiting around for a high-pressure research job to pop into her inbox. And even if she had been at home watching Loose Women in her jimmy jams – still, no.


Would all the bridesmaids technically own a portion of the bride's dress?

Yet, Hayley persevered with her friend, who she calls Caroline. She resisted the COB cake-maker demand, but did cancel her Saturday plans to get NBB’s research job done.

The response?: “Thanks for this, would’ve been really helpful to have it yesterday when specified but I appreciate it.”


What followed were three weekends dedicated to shopping for bridal party outfits, with the seven BMs coughing up AU$550 (£328) each for their dresses, before Caroline found her own dream dress – and the audacious begging email landed.

“That night, my inbox pinged again with another of the group emails from Caroline that I'd started to dread,” Hayley recalls. “The subject line was “Bridesmaid dress contribution” and it made me break out into a cold sweat.

“The latest bridal update was a long email outlining how she and Jase were hugely over their bridal budget now that she’d splurged on the dress. That it was ‘totally fine if you can’t’ but she would really love if we could ‘pitch in’ around AU$150 (£89) each towards her ‘dream dress’. That it’d mean so very much to her and would mean that as she walked down the aisle, she’d be wearing something we’d all had a part in.”

Aren’t we all cringing for Caroline?

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Amazingly, three of the bridesmaids acquiesced to the unusual request, while the other four – including Hayley – have maintained a baffled silence.

“I nearly threw my phone across the room, such was the rage that consumed me,” Hayley says. “It’s been three days since she sent the email and three of the seven bridesmaids have replied saying they’d love to pitch in for her dress. Whether they genuinely wanted to or not, I just don’t know. But I’m starting to think I might have to bail on this wedding, and friendship.”

Probably for the best?

Images: iStock, Rex Features, Giphy


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