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‘Any adjustment would be thankfully received’ Bride sends email saying £100 wedding gift just isn't enough

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Apparently, £100 doesn't cut it as a wedding gift these days. Not for one bride anyway, who reportedly emailed a guest post-nuptials to tell them their cheque just wasn't generous enough.

Following in the hallowed footsteps of The Great Penis Beaker Debate of 2013, another Mumsnet post has hit the headlines after a user wanted advice on how to respond to a former colleague asking them to consider an “adjustment” of their £100 wedding gift. 

The poster revealed that after gifting the couple with what they “thought was a pretty decent cheque”, they received an email stating the recipients “were surprised that your contribution didn't seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day.

“In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received”.

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The post has now attracted more than 1,000 replies

The “gobsmacked” poster added that they believed the reference to “position” was down to a recent inheritance, which the bride knew about.

The post attracted more than 1,000 replies before comments were closed, in which many expressed disbelief and most advised cancelling the cheque – though the original poster pointed out it had been cashed rather quickly after receipt.

Yep, this is he-said-she-said on an online forum, but it would be a peculiarly random thing to lie about. And we would very much enjoy a demonstration of what a hundred quid’s worth of good wishes looks like. Smiling, but no laughing, perhaps. A kiss on the cheek, but not two unless you're willing to put your hand in your pocket. No hugs ‘til we see the readies, and don’t you even think of looking happy while watching the first dance.

Oh, the romance. Heads up, brides-to-be, because there’s another item for the to-do list: analysing breakdowns of all guests’ bank accounts in order to assess the potential haul of your big day.

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MINE. ALL MINE. MINE.

Forget inviting friends and family to celebrate with you, to share the love, to enjoy a lovely day of food and fun and happiness and joy. Forget gratitude and delight over so many people coming to wish you well, and the pleasant bonus of receiving presents, whatever they may be. It’s time to focus on what’s really important about your day: clawing back some of that money ill-spent on guests you don’t actually care about, but invited because you heard they’d had a windfall.

Rub your hands with glee, let the pound signs glitter in your eyes and install a cash machine in your hotel function room: it’s payback time.

Interestingly, a recent survey of 2008 people by online gift retailer GettingPersonal.co.uk revealed that over half of respondents said they ignored gift lists, with 40% saying they did so in order to cut down on expenditure. They'll all be getting booted out of ceremonies this summer, then.

The poster later asks, “Should I reply, ring them, ignore it or what??” We recommend posting on Mumsnet and letting it go viral…

Images: iStock / mumsnet.com

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