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First Dates fans respond brilliantly to “shocking” mansplaining incident

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We live in a golden age of female comedy: Mindy Kaling, Tina Fey, Amy Poehler, Rashida Jones, Leslie Jones, Kristen Wiig, Rebel Wilson, Anna Kendrick, Melissa McCarthy, Kate McKinnon, Elizabeth Banks, Lena Dunham and more are churning out side-splitting books, films and TV shows like nobody’s business.

And, while men are more likely to try and make people laugh, their jokes are far more likely to fall flat: women are (according to science) more consistently funny.

Yet, despite all of this, a lot of men persist in claiming that they know far more about comedy than women. Remember when Jim Davidson said he didn’t know any female comedians? Or when Christopher Hitchens patronisingly insisted that, “bless their tender hearts”, women just aren’t as funny as men? Or, y’know, when misogynists everywhere decided to unleash all of their vitriol and hatred into the internet after it was announced there was an all-female Ghostbusters in the works?

So we were interested – very interested – when Channel 4’s First Dates paired up Kelly, an incredibly funny stand-up comedian, with a man named Russell.

How would he react when he learned what his date did for a living, we wondered? Would he be excited to sit down with a professional comic and chat to her about the ins and outs of her career? Or would he be a total douchebag?

Tragically, yet not entirely surprisingly, Russell turned out to be the latter.

After telling Kelly that being a stand-up comedian “isn’t a f***ing job” (tell that to Lee Evans and Michael McIntyre, Russ), he then added that “men are funnier”. Sure, all that comedy is just stored up in the old ball bag, we bet.

As if that tired old claim weren’t enough, the mansplainer went on to inform a stunned Kelly that female comedians are “quite fat” and “unattractive”.


Read more: The 52 best, funniest, and saltiest feminist comebacks ever to grace the internet

Somehow, Kelly manages to restrain herself from reaching out and pouring her drink over him.

But, when she fails to crack a smile (or a joke) in response to Russell’s misogynist bull, he taunts her with the line: “Anyway, what’s your comedy like? So far it’s been quite s***.”

Cue a stony silence from Kelly, prompting Russell to defend himself with the immortal words: “That’s a f***ing joke.” Because all the funniest guys need to explain when something is, in fact, a joke.

“Leave the jokes to me, darling, yeah?” replies a weary Kelly.

“I should be the comedian,” he counters.

“No,” she says, returning her attention to her dinner (the quicker she can eat it, the quicker she’s out of there. “You really shouldn’t.”

Read more: These shocking 21st century adverts are a grim reminder that sexism is alive and well

Judging by comments on Twitter, viewers – both male and female – were firmly on Kelly’s side.

Unsurprisingly, Kelly decided that Russell was absolutely 100% not the man for her, and told him she thought they’d be better off as friends (which is incredibly generous, in our opinion).

Russ, though, just couldn’t stop himself from digging an even deeper hole.

“You’ve got a great figure, you’re smoking hot, you’ve got great hair… but there’s also something that repulses me.”

What an absolute charmer.

For those interested, Kelly – who is funny as f**k – has a number of gigs lined up soon.

Just keep an eye on her social media feeds to find out more.

Images: Channel 4



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