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One woman's awesome response to being told she wasn't the ‘mum type’

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A blogger who was told she didn't seem “the type to be a mum” has penned a superb response hitting back at lazy stereotypes.

Gylisa Jayne, from Cornwall, says she initially shrugged off the comment but was later moved to write a powerful Facebook post that has attracted thousands of reactions, shares and comments.

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Jayne, who posted a picture of herself with her young daughter, wrote: “A 'Mother' has to live up to a certain standard, and it isn't just taking care of your own kid… Mothers are meant to sacrifice every aspect of themselves, to fulfill their role.

“Mothers aren't allowed expensive bags, or shopping trips out, or to have a fresh manicure every few weeks. Mothers aren't meant to have tattoos, or coloured hair or piercings.”

“Mothers aren't supposed to have histories of being reckless, feckless or just plain fun.”

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Gylisa Jayne with daughter Lily

“Mothers aren't meant to have had a colourful life of experiences before they bear children, they are expected to forget their identity to raise someone else.

“But how can we raise our children effectively if we haven't experienced a bit of life beforehand?”

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The 24-year-old, who has an 18-month-old daughter, Lily, slams the notion of motherhood as being like an “exclusive club that you can only get into if you look or act the right way.”

“Without navigating my own chequered past how could I possibly hope to guide a new soul through similar times?” she asks.

When we become mothers, it isn't because we are just dying to wipe someone else's arse.

The post struck a chord with hundreds of other mothers.

One woman agreed that mum stereotypes put unnecessary pressure on her: “So true, I'm constantly beating myself up because I'm sometimes not what I think society expects from a 'mum’”.

Another said: “I'm tattooed from neck to toes, and littered with piercings, a colourful past, and a hell of a lot of good and bad life experience. Every one of those experiences has led me to where I am, and I'm a bloody good mother now.”

“If all mums were the same then the world would be pretty boring wouldn't it?” another responded. “Wait till Lily starts school or nursery it will be ‘is that your mum with the pink hair? She's cool!!!!’”


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