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The Stylist wedding blog: riding a rollercoaster of emotion

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As I sat on the train this morning, idly flicking through my Instagram feed, I happened upon an incredible picture of a bride and groom on lovemydress.com.

Reading the blog post genuinely brought a tear to my eye (we ‘goth-folk’ are sensitive creatures!) but it caught me off guard and it got me thinking about my ‘wedding state of mind’.

Natasha and her groom-to-be Ian

Natasha and her groom-to-be Ian

If I were to visualise my emotional timeline since getting engaged, it would resemble the loopiest rollercoaster you’ve ever seen, and I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in that.

The rollercoaster thus far looks like this:

Elation: “I’m engaged!”

happy

Overwhelmed: “WOOOAAAHHH. This is happening. I’m actually getting married.” *gulp*

overwhelmed

Excitement: “Hello Pinterest with all your awesome ideas!”

bride

Stress: “We need to talk about the budget…”

stress

Deflated: “Goodbye Pinterest with all your expensive ideas.”

money

Anger: “How the hell do people afford weddings?!”

anger

Smug: “Well, at least the wedding venue’s sorted. We can get married in the Secret Garden where my parents live.”

smug

Sad: “No we can’t, the outdoor wedding licence has been revoked due to a freak storm. Oh.”

sad

Confident: “Date set, 3 September it is.”

confident

Joy: “We’ve found a perfect new venue that can do that date!”

joy

Despondent: “We’ll have to change the date, one of the bridesmaids is in Australia.”

despondant

Teary: “Why is everything so hard?”

teary

Happy: “New date, perfect venue… winning at last.”

happy

Ecstatic: “I’ve found my dress and it’s been relatively painless!”

dress

Accomplishment: “Venue, dress, flowers, save the dates, entertainment, catering and bridesmaids dresses all pretty much sorted with six months to go… turns out I’m pretty good at this planning lark.”

accomplished

Panic: “I don’t like the bridesmaids dresses I chose, shit.”

no

Relief: “My bridesmaids are amazing and we’ve quickly found a solution in the form of much cooler ‘separates’.”

relief

So, that’s where I’m at so far and I’m about 99% sure it will get worse, better, harder, easier an so on. 

Whether you’re goth or not, be ready for your inner ‘emo’ to strike at any moment during the wedding planning process.

Don’t be surprised when the thundercloud rolls on over your head, carry tissues with you at all times and embrace your emotions, there’s nothing you can do to stop them.

My advice would be to just roll with them, they’re not all doom and gloom... !


I'd love to hear your thoughts, so please post your comments below, or on Twitter @stylistmagazine and @natashatomalin, using the hashtag #Stylistweddingblog. 

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