An Indian woman's 'marriage CV' has gone viral after she replaced the original one her parents created with a much more honest version.
Indhuja Pillai's parents had uploaded her profile to a matrimony website, a popular way to arrange marriages in India, in order to find their daughter a husband. As well as including her age, name and horoscope the profile even included false details about her profession, stating that she is a software engineer (she's not).
To get her own back, Indhuja, who comes from Bangalore, decided to take matters into her own hands and created a website with a new and more honest CV, simply titled marry.indhuja.com.
This time, she included details such as the fact she actually works for a start-up company called Tripigator, that she's a tomboy and is also an atheist.
The 23-year-old also defiantly revealed that she's not "marriage material” and that she “won't grow long hair, ever” but that she comes "with a life-long guarantee and I commit for life”.
When it comes to choosing a partner, she's equally as specific, stating that she'd prefer a bearded man “who is passionate about seeing the world. Someone who earns for himself and does NOT hate his job. Must be flexible with his parents, also means, it's better if he is NOT a family guy. Extra points to the one who hates kids. Points for a great voice and an impressive personality. Should be able to hold a conversation for atleast 30 minutes”.
So far, the new CV has received over 350,000 views, with many messages of support from other young Indians who feel trapped by arranged marriages.
Indhuja has since written a blog about the CV and discussed why she chose to create the profile:
“I have been a loner for quite sometime now, and I'm used to being alone; at the movies, at the restaurants and on the road on my moped, roaming the streets. Having spent too much time with myself, it's only natural that I know so much about myself. I don't know how to be in touch, nor do I meet with random people to make friends. Not a phone person (phone balance of 250 INR remains for over 45 days), or someone who texts/chats. I'm sure you get the idea.”
Not only that she pointed to the plight of many young men and women in India who feel pressured into getting married:
“Many women could relate to the plight of their parents pestering them to get married. And men, without a choice, could only dream of marrying someone like the woman in the profile, me. A few (man & woman) even wrote that this is the first time they are even writing to a stranger on Facebook. Some asked me not to get married, that I was only 23.”
Under her blog she also received over 150 comments, many from women who felt encouraged by her honest approach.
One commenter wrote:
I saw this marry.indhuja page via my brother.. And honestly, I am not a tomboy nor in start up but I understand exactly what you meant by wanting to travel and looking for a guy that is flexible with his parents,not liking kids and all that and ESPECIALLY about being able to hold a conversation for 30 minutes!!!
I am just 20 and is already being pressurized to start "looking" (from orthodox muslim family here) and I am holding out on my own ,
But IF I ever consider going the marriage route, I think I'll just get inspired by you and create something like yours to sieve out the ones I'd want to ever get married to and to scare off the kind I'd rather avoid! :D
Keep being You IP!
Much Love!! <3
With another writing:
“I am short, i am fat, i am football, and i love the way i am... :)
my parents daily calls me up in morning to check whether i am going gym or not,because according to them my weight is the reason i am not getting good guys...
i don't want to get marry,i am just 25...i waste my every weekend..yes you read it correct...every weekend meeting guys...just cuz my parents feels good that i am ready to get marry...alwaz thought to explain them that i want to see the world...got reply "your husband will take you places..."
my frustration is on peak..nd i saw your blog..loved it..will show this to paa,hope he will understand now...
thanks..good job :)"
Clearly this has struck a chord with a whole generation and we applaud her guts for sticking up for who she is.
In Indhuja's own words, "People want to survive. I want to live."