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“This is why I’ll die a feminist” woman exposes men's repulsive comments after group chat error


“Bring her to Thailand we need a bike.”
“Show me where you p*** from. Works 9/10 times.”
“I'd throw her on that bed.”

Sadly this isn’t the appalling sexist “banter” of a certain Presidential hopeful, or archived recordings from a 1970s gentleman’s club - it’s a group of modern 20-something men speaking about a woman they study alongside at university.

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Eleanor Henry, 22, the woman described as a “bike” in their Facebook group chat was mistakenly added into the conversation - and decided to expose the appalling comments in a powerful Facebook post declaring, “this is why I’ll die a feminist.”

Here’s how the worryingly casual nature of how the men’s conversation went down:

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The men had screengrabbed pictures of the Melbourne University student from her Facebook page to illustrate their discussion of how they’d like to “throw her on that bed.”

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Henry tells Stylist.co.uk that she thinks what the men did is “disgusting, repulsive and despicable.”

"When I initially saw the messages I felt sick, I cried." she said. "I was so humiliated, I felt degraded, objectified."

But then Henry, who is studying Commerce, says her “supportive” sister advised her to post the chat publicly “to spread awareness, not so much to name and shame but to really start a conversation on the matter.”

I think some men speak about women in this way because it is entrenched in their psyche that women are here for the purpose of men, therefore they feel a sense of entitlement.

“Let's all wave hello to my fellow peers at Melbourne University,” Henry wrote on Facebook alongside screengrabs of the men’s comments. “This is why I'll die a feminist. It's 2016. Let's get back to that conversation on equality.

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“Oh and for those asking, they accidentally added me to their chat group without realising I could read everything prior.”

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Eleanor Henry (left)

Two of the men from the chat, who she is acquainted with through a group assignment, contacted her to say sorry, while one man she doesn’t know offered up something of a non-apology.

'I understand why you might be upset but that was all said as a joke and no one was taking anything seriously in that group,” he told her. “I don't think posting something like that publicly will do anyone any good.

“If you were so offended I apologise.”

Big of him.

Henry say she doesn’t buy “immaturity” or “boys being boys” excuses. “Its a really mediocre reasoning and it doesn't make sense - we are all humans and we are all educated enough to know not to sexually harass, humiliate or belittle others.”

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