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'It’s about not losing yourself in each other' Goldie Hawn on secrets behind her 32-year relationship with Kurt Russell


They are one of the few Hollywood couples whose romance has lasted the test of time - 32 years to be exact. 

Now Goldie Hawn, 69, has revealed the secret to the long lasting romance with fellow film star Kurt Russell, 64, and her advice includes learning how to deal with not agreeing, communication rather than marriage, and perhaps key - the intention to make it work.


At the Monaco Tennis Open in 1993

"A lasting relationship isn’t about marriage. It’s about compatibility and communication," Goldie says. 

"And you both need to want it to work. If one person does not want it to work, it isn’t going to work. Intention is the key. 

"It’s also about not losing yourself in each other. Being together, two pillars holding up the house and the roof, and being different, not having to agree on everything, learning how to deal with not agreeing. Everything’s a choice."

Goldie Hawn with her grandchildren

Goldie Hawn with her grandchildren, photograph by Pamela Hanson, fashion editor Jessica de Ruiter

Goldie was speaking to Porter  and was photographed by Pamela Hanson at her LA home with three of her five grandchildren, making touching and and beautiful black and white portraits for the piece.  

Speaking about her and Kurt's shared bond over the importance of family Goldie said: "Kurt came from three sisters and a very strong family unit. I came from one sister and two parents and a big family unit. That’s what we care about," she added.

"We talked about relationships and commonality early on. We had nannies, there’s no doubt about it. We’ve both been working. But we were very present with our children. 

"It’s the same way we grew up. I had a working mother, Kurt did not. My mother was right there."

Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell last month

Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell last month

The pair met on-set filming Walt Disney's The One and Only, Genuine, Original Family Band in 1968, but it took fifteen years before they became romantically involved during the production of Swing Shift around 1983.

'SWING SHIFT' in 1984 when Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell got together

'SWING SHIFT' when Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell got together

Three years earlier Goldie had divorced Bill Hudson, with whom she had two children - Kate and Oliver - while, around the same time, Kurt was married and divorced from actress Season Hubley.

Shortly after Kurt became Kate and Oliver's step-father, while Goldie became step-mother to his son. They have a son together, Wyatt, who was born in 1986. They went on to star in comedy Overboard together in 1987 - a smash-hit at the box office.

Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell

The pair starred in comedy Overboard together in 1987

Goldie also takes the opportunity to discuss female discrimination in Hollywood in the piece, and growing older on screen. On women in Hollywood she says: "We have made some strides, there’s no question. The relationship between men and women is definitely changing, but when you think that we only got to vote how many years ago? We’re still dealing with these kinds of paradigms.

"If you look at racial issues – I’m reading Truman’s autobiography at the moment – they were dealing with the very same situations that we’re dealing with today. It’s human nature to create these problems. Women are trying to find their own power inside relationships, too," she added.

Goldie also admitted she's embracing being older with open arms by learning to do it mindfully: "Getting older is a fact of life. By living mindfully you understand that there are many transitions in life. 

"You just go through them. But it’s wonderful to know you’re aging, because that means you’re still on the planet, right? It’s all about how you make it. It’s all in your mind."

Goldie launched an animal welfare initiative called Travels To My Elephant at London's Manchester Square yesterday.

The launch, hosted by Quintessentially Foundation & Elephant Family, will see a 20-strong fleet of artist-designed rickshaws take over London's roads for two months this summer, in a bid to save Asia's elephants.

For more about Travels To My Elephant click here 

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