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Someone asked Cameron Diaz why she didn’t get married until she was 42

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Cameron Diaz hasn’t been seen on the big screen since she appeared in 2014 musical flick, Annie, so her fans were naturally excited to hear that she was appearing alongside Gwyneth Paltrow at the Goop Wellness Summit.

However, while we expected the 44-year-old to be quizzed about her career, hobbies, and dreams, Paltrow decided to channel that annoying relative we all have and ask Diaz why she waited until she was 42 to get married for the first time.

Diaz – who has famously said in the past that she loved being single and had never been bothered about marriage – tilted her head to one side as she considered how best to answer such a personal question.

And then she responded: “I think it's a matter of I just hadn't met my husband. I had boyfriends before, and there's a really, really distinct difference between husbands and boyfriends.”


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The Charlie’s Angels actor then went on to reveal that she made a conscious decision to never marry anyone who made her feel less than equal. However, owing to modern society’s ingrained misogyny, this – Diaz explained – proved difficult to find.

“We women are objectified so much,” she said, pointing out that so many of her exes treated her (however unwittingly) as inferior.

Hello Ladies! Happy Fall! Hope everyone is enjoying this glorious time of year; the chillier air, the changing and falling leaves; all of the markers of another year coming to a close, and a hint at the new one about to unfold. I first wanted to thank all of you who answered our call this past summer to send in any questions you might have about aging in a female body. I am so grateful for your participation, as it allowed us to address your inquries in the next volume of the @TheBodyBook. It is centered around the mental, physical and emotional journey of aging. And as we diligently put the finishing touches on the book, we’d like to ask for your help once more. This book is for you and about you and that’s why we’d like to see you on the cover. Much like the cover of the Body Book, under the jacket, were we featured women of all different shapes, sizes, builds and ethnicities. We would like for you to feel represented again, this time to show where you are in your process of aging. So we invite you to take a picture of yourself. It should look much like the one I have here; against a plain background, this general framing-you can crop closer to a portrait, and the higher-def the better! We’d like to see more of that beautiful face of yours than the body this time. And if you want to snap one with yourself and your mom and your daughter together, or any multiple generations or expressions of your journey with aging, we’d love to see those, too! And for the 50 we use on the actual cover, we’ll send you a signed copy of the book when it hits bookstores in April. So be yourself with it, be brave with it, have fun with it, and we can’t wait to see. Thank you again and Happy Selfie-ing!! Ox, Cameron To submit, click the link in my profile.

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It wasn’t until she met Good Charlotte frontman Benji Madden, 38, that she discovered relationships could be very different indeed.

“Somehow my husband has just been able to kind of show me what it's like not to have that [sense of inequality] be a part of a relationship,” shared Diaz.

“I never experienced that before. I'd never been loved in that way.”


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Diaz went on to add that although she and her husband are “so different from one another” they complement each other well.

“I have a husband who is just my partner in life and in everything,” she said.  “[But] talk about two very different people!

“We are so different from one another, but we share the same values — we're totally two peas in a pod.”

Cameron Diaz and Benji Madden

Cameron Diaz and Benji Madden

Diaz married Madden in 2015 after dating for seven months – but she didn’t go into the relationship looking for a sense of completion, or in pursuit of that much touted ‘happy ever after’.

Instead, she embraced a full and happy life, pursued sizzling sexual fulfilment with the likes of Justin Timberlake and Jared Leto (she readily admitted that she was “always travelling for c**k”), and worked on becoming her best self.

And, because she wasn’t willing to compromise and say ‘I do’ to someone who made her feel less than her best, she became the poster girl for happy single women everywhere.

“There are many soul mates,” she told Marie Claire. “My soul has a lot of different facets and it needs a lot of different men. Friends, too. Friends can be soul mates.”

Diaz continued: “For some reason, we get into relationships and we expect one man to understand all the parts of us and meet all of those needs. I think that’s where everything fails.”

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