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Jennifer Lopez on divorce; ‘you feel discarded as a woman’

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Jennifer Lopez has opened up about divorce and heartbreak in a new interview.

The thrice-married star was discussing new film, The Boy Next Door, which is about a woman in the process of divorcing her husband.

Speaking to Glamour, the star said “I really understood her and I could relate to her. You know, being in a marriage for a while, it kind of falling apart, deciding on whether to save it, not to save it, feeling really depressed about it and feeling really low, feeling discarded as a woman.”

The star, who plays teacher Claire Peterson in the thriller, also disclosed how divorce can affect your life: 

“Everything that you knew is turned upside down. As fun as a movie as it is, as much of a roller coaster as it’s made to be, it still had themes that I really related to.”

In the same interview, she discussed coming to terms with a cheating partner:

“I think it’s about realising it’s not about you, when someone cheats on you it’s about them. It’s about their shortcomings. It makes us feel like it’s about our shortcomings, that there’s something wrong with us. The truth is it’s really their ego and what they need to feel within themselves, that drives them to do something like that, not because you weren’t enough.” 

Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony

Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony in 2011

The 45-year-old actress and singer first married Ojani Noa in 1997, and divorced a year later. She went on to marry dancer Chris Judd but divorced nine months later, and later got engaged to Ben Affleck in 2002 but never made it down the aisle.  

She then married singer and long-time friend Marc Anthony in 2004, who she was married to until their split in 2014. She has two children with Marc, seven-year-old twins Emme and Maximilian. 

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Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck in 2001

Last year, in her new memoir True Love, she revealed the moment she decided to leave Marc: 

“It was one of those moments when you're so scared you can't even scream. In a blur of fear and panic, I looked at [her manager] Benny and my mother and blurted out the words: 'I don't think I can be with Marc anymore.' Then I burst into tears.

Anybody looking from the outside in would have thought my life was great. I had a husband and two beautiful children. I was on American Idol and my new single On The Floor had gone to number one all over the world. 

What people didn't know was that life really wasn't that good. My relationship was falling apart and I was terrified. 

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