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'I wouldn't change a thing'; Kate Winslet on her two divorces and why life's too short for post-baby dieting

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Kate Winslet has once again illustrated why she's one of our all-time favourite cinematic talents, with a frank and frequently sweary interview in which dismissed the notion of feeling any regret over her two divorces, as well as attacking the pressure on women to lose post-baby weight. 

The Oscar-winning actress, 39, said divorce may actually be beneficial to children because it teaches them about the "bad bits" of life.

Winslet is mum to 14-year-old daughter, Mia, from her first marriage to Jim Threapleton, and a son, Joe, 11, from her second marriage to Sam Mendes. She wed Ned RocknRoll, the nephew of Sir Richard Branson, in 2012 and they welcomed her third child, Bear, a year later.

Kate in the Harper's Bazaar shoot (Photo: Alexi Lubomirski/Harper's Bazaar UK)

Kate in the Harper's Bazaar shoot (Photos: Alexi Lubomirski/Harper's Bazaar UK)

In a candid new interview with Harper’s Bazaar UK magazine, the star said does not regret anything about her past relationships, because she tries to turn negative experiences into positive ones. 

"I think it’s very important to teach your children to struggle on some level," she said. "I would honestly say that I wouldn’t change a thing. Even all the bad bits.

"It doesn’t matter how ***** times have been, they all matter, because those things shape who you are. And if you don’t like who you are, well, then you’re ****** really, aren’t you?"

Kate in the Harper's Bazaar shoot (Photo: Alexi Lubomirski/Harper's Bazaar UK)

The Revolutionary Road actress also laid into the notion of women having to lose weight after giving birth.

"There’s a big part of me – now, more than ever before – that feels a sense of responsibility for how other women view themselves," she said. 

"Take having the baby, for instance," she continued, in reference to her youngest son Bear, who has just turned one.

"Have I actively been on a diet to lose my baby weight? No, I haven’t. I genuinely bloody haven’t. I so didn’t want to be one of those ‘Oh, wow, she’s back in shape after 12 weeks’ women. When I read things like that, I just think, ‘Oh, for f***’s sake, that’s actually impossible.

"Life is just too short to be spending time focusing on things like that. I want to keep my health and my sanity and be well fed and happy. I was nowhere near my pre-pregnancy shape when Bear was 12 weeks old – I was breastfeeding, apart from anything else, and hungry all the time – and nor would I have wanted to be.

"And, do you know what? My body will never go back to what it was, and I wouldn’t expect it to after three babies."

Kate and her husband Ned in 2012

Kate and her husband Ned in 2012

Winslet has four films in the works this year, including action adventure Insurgent opposite Naomi Watts. 

As she prepares to turn 40 in October this year, she describes herself as her most content yet, with none of the body anxiety that haunted her younger years.

"What is so gorgeous about being the age I am is that all the ridiculous angst I might once have felt about having a bit of cellulite, or being a bit puffy in the face, or whatever, has evaporated. I simply can’t believe I ever spent any time wasting my life on that nonsense," she said.

The March edition of Harper's Bazaar UK

The March edition of Harper's Bazaar UK

The full feature appears in March issue of Harper's Bazaar UK, on sale from 3 February. It is also available as a digital edition.



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