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Presenter Sue Perkins told being infertile would be 'easier' because she's a lesbian

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Earlier this month, Sue Perkins revealed she'd been living with a brain tumour for eight years, which meant she was unable to have children.

Now, in an extract from her new memoir Spectacles, published in the Sunday Times, she admits the diagnosis was all the more difficult due to homophobic remarks made by the consultant. 

The 45-year-old Great British Bake Off presenter was asked at the time if she had a boyfriend, to which she replied she was a lesbian.

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Sue Perkins was told being “infertile” would be easier for her

She was bluntly told, “Oh, OK. Well that makes it easier. You're infertile. You can't have kids.”

Perkins, who is in relationship with documentary-maker Anna Richardson, admits that at the time she didn't complain, but that the insensitive delivery had her reeling.

“Does not a lesbian have a fallopian tube? Am I not human, and [am] I not somebody who could be a lovely, wonderful mother?” she wrote.

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Sue with comedy partner Mel Giedroyc

Following the devastating news, Perkins had to come to terms with the fact that children might not be part of her future, and she cried herself “hoarse” for days.

She said, “It really hit me, as it hits a lot of people, I'm sure, when it's too late, this is not going to happen. I can’t now have it as an out-of-sight, out-of-mind possibility, lurking.

“It’s just not going to happen, it’s not going to ever be part of my life. And although I never yearned to physically have my own child, it felt like bereavement.”

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The presenter has been living with a brain tumour for eight years

While an earlier diagnosis would've meant she might be able to conceive with the help of drugs, Perkins admitted she put it off, because of what having children meant.

"Sometimes I get into the mindset that being heterosexual is a brave new world, because you can conceive, and you work out the rest of it once you’re pregnant. 

"For me, it just felt like I was sitting there with a pencil going, ‘what’s the best way to have a daddy? What’s the best way to have two mummies?’ And it just felt like I just had a f****** pencil in my hand, and this isn’t the way to start being a mother, and that’s what was really painful," she wrote.

Sue Perkins' memoir Spectacles is out 8 October and is available to pre-order now

Images: BBC Pictures, Rex Features

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