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This woman has a novel way of dealing with explicit photos on Snapchat

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Being sent unsolicited dick pics is an experience that is far too familiar for women who use Snapchat, Tinder and Instagram.

And while many of us simply shrug it off and block the user/creep in question, one woman had a more confrontational gambit up her sleeve..

Rebecca Mcgregor

Rebecca Mcgregor

Photographer and lingerie model Rebecca Mcgregor decided to take matters into her own hands when she was sent a dick pic by someone known only as “Glen” recently.

Since the man in question followed her on Facebook and Instagram at the same time as sending her the explicit photo, she was able to find out his full name; and who his mother was.

And - perhaps borrowing from a childhood tactic of justice - she promptly send the post onto his mum, with the message: “Hey doll, I see you’re listed as Glenn’s mother? I think you need to have a chat with your son on how to approach women. See attached xx”

The post on Rebecca Mcgregor's Facebook page

An innovative response...

As the screenshot above shows, Rebecca first replied to the chap in question writing, “Literally why send that? What am I expected to reply? I'm so embarrassed for you.”

She then shared her exchange on Facebook, saying: “Are you tired of unsolicited dick pics from creeps? Unwanted vulgar chat from strangers you've never spoken to? Take my approach, screenshot it and send it to their MA xx”


Read more: women share real-life accounts of sexual harassment in the workplace


Rebecca is no stranger to unwanted snaps of an explicit nature from those who – eye roll – misinterpret the nature of her job as a lingerie model.

“I just thought, ‘this is my only option left to stop this happening to me,’” she tells Refinery29.

“I've tried other things previously, such as ignoring them, changing privacy settings, being super strict on who I give the likes of my Snapchat username, and also adding ‘do not ask for/send me nudes’on my social media profiles. This seemed the most effective solution, as to him, the others didn't work!”

Wine break🤷🏼‍♀️|🤳🏼

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However, it seems tired old misogynist framing has mired the way some people have viewed Rebecca’s novel response to the dick pic.

“Because my style of photography is boudoir photography does NOT mean I'm ‘asking’ to be sexually harassed,” Rebecca writes on her Facebook page.

“I've screen-shotted replies telling me to ‘enjoy the dick I get and I shouldn't complain’… also people saying I’m trying to be 'some sort of sex symbol,’” she adds. “Nah pal, I'm trying to be a photographer in a world full of perverts, it's bloody annoying.”

This type of victim-blaming magnifies why we have such a problem with online harassment in the first place.

As Rebecca herself notes in a spot-on insight, “If you don't agree with being sexually harassed by strangers you've never spoken to, you're a ‘man hater’, ‘deserve it’ or just have to ‘block them’ ‘like everyone else’ and let them know it's ‘acceptable’ to start on the next stranger”.

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Rebecca is not the first woman to take action when it comes to unwanted dick pics.

Last year, Samantha Mawdsley from London got her own back on a perpetrator named James, by bombarding him with random dick pics of her own that she found on the web (above).

“My initial thought was to ignore it, as we females are taught from such a young age. But... Nah! I decided to mess with him and call him out on all his ridiculous behaviours and double standards,” she tells Stylist.

But James didn't enjoy receiving the pictures quite as much as he enjoyed sending them, replying: “I’m not gay and you’re a girl so you should like it.”

Tanned and happy. We just won't mention the sunburn on my chest. 🦀

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Blogger and model Stina Sanders (above) is sent up to five penis pictures a week.

Like Samantha and Rebecca, she called out one particular sender to her 130,000 Instagram followers.

She posted an X-rated picture he had sent her to highlight how women are targeted online. 

While Stina received some support, like Rebecca, she was also told by some followers that she “deserved” sexual harassment because she models underwear. 


Read more: The women spectacularly fighting back against unwanted dick pics


Her experiences have prompted Sanders to co-found Huggle, a new “safe, female-friendly” social-networking app that's designed to connect people who have similar interests. It's the first UK app to use photo verification along with hyper-local technology, to prevent fake check-ins.

Stina believes that social networks should take more action to prevent users being able to send explicit pictures in direct messages.

“It's ridiculous that social-networking sites ban photos like breast feeding, but directly sending someone an unwanted image of an erect penis, is ok? It baffles me,” she says.

Photos: iStock/Collage Maker/Facebook/Instagram

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