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UK sex survey reveals why we're having less sex than ever before


According to a recent survey the UK is having less sex than ever before.

Over the course of a month, the average number of times a Briton has sex is four - a drop of from nearly seven times per month in 2008.

In 2014 we appear to be much less satisfied with our sex lives than in 2008, with the figure dropping to down to 63% from 76%.

In the survey undertaken by The Observer, the statistics point to a ‘significant’ decline in libido since 2008. Then, the figure was 44%, now it’s at 34%. However the study found that men still have higher libidos than women with 43% of men rating their sex drive above average, compared with 25% of women.

In the age of austerity it seems, we are too tired, stressed and overworked to have sex. While we may not be going out as much and staying in more, we’re not spending that time in bed.

Perhaps unsurprisingly, the age range with the highest sex drive was the 25-34 age group. But if you were worrying about losing your sexual appetite in old age, fear not, as 21% of pensioners aged 65 plus reported that they had an above average sex drive. Geographically speaking, libido levels are the highest in Scotland, where 50% report an above average sex drive.

But libido isn’t the only area that has seen a plummet, it’s also our confidence levels that have taken a hit. In 2008, 55% of Britons considered themselves to have above average prowess. This has dropped to 33%, with 58% rating themselves as 'solid'.

This loss of confidence has been felt particularly acutely by men, who are also less likely to be happy with the size of their penis than they were in 2008. Last time, men were significantly more likely than women to rate themselves above average in terms of performance. Now it is just 33% of both genders who rate themselves above average. The youngest, and most inexperienced, have lower than average levels of confidence but the next age group, 25-34, are the most confident of all, with 49% rating themselves above average.

When it came to sex in marriage, 61% of those polled believed that it was possible to have a stable relationship without sex. It’s not surprising then that 57% said that trust was the most important aspect of maintaining a stable relationship, whereas sex was one of the least important factors, with only 2% saying that it was important.

When asked if they had been unfaithful to their partner, 83% said no. Of those who had been unfaithful, men are twice as likely to cheat, and 52% had cheated on their partner with a friend of their partner or was known to their partner. Rates of infidelity peak among those aged 25-34 at 26%, while homosexuals (28%) are significantly more likely to have been unfaithful than heterosexuals (17%).

Despite the rates of infidelity, 77% believe that monogamy was natural. The average length of current relationships is just under 16 years, with 35% of those in a relationship having been with the same partner for 20 years or more.

As for our sexual orientation, 8% of the population define themselves as either homosexual or bisexual, but double that number have had a degree of sexual contact with someone of the same sex. For example, among those who define themselves as heterosexual, 12% have had sexual contact with someone of the same gender. Those in the youngest age group have had the most same-sex contact, 22% for 16-24s and 26% for 25-34s.

Overall, Britons do not identify with being sexually adventurous, with under one in three saying they were adventurous, but that hasn’t stopped people experimenting with sex toys, with nearly half the population stating they’ve used them.

In terms of pornography on the Internet, 44% said that they don't watch it, and 41% saying they watch it occasionally. It was only 15% who owned up to watching online pornography regularly.

While a significant minority (28%) of those who watch online porn, said it had an effect on their real sexual encounters, this didn't mean it had a negative impact - rather the opposite as those who consider themselves to be very good lovers are significantly more likely to watch online porn.

Perhaps one of the more surprising statistics is that 42% of those surveyed would at least consider having sex for money if the sum offered was large enough.

As for sex in the workplace, nearly a quarter admitted to having sex at work, with 14% saying they have sex in their place of work with a colleague.



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