“It truly doesn’t matter when you accomplish something”

Explaining why she chose to explore ‘time’ in her podcast episode, 50-year-old Reign says it is partly because of the fact that she started the #OscarsSoWhite campaign when she was 44. She doesn’t want women to feel pressured to reach milestones by certain ages.

“As my kids grew older and I was able to reclaim more time for myself, I had an interesting analysis about how I was best using it,” she tells Stylist. “At the same time – because I’m very active on social media – I was able to see folks half my age having these conversations about things like the ‘women under 30’ lists and whether they can accomplish X things by Y dates.

“It struck me that it truly doesn’t matter when you accomplish something, as long as you are on a journey that is full of joy and accomplishment regardless of how you define it. In so much of our lives I think we live through a reflection of how other people are seeing us, as opposed to how we see ourselves. Like ‘are you going to be a failure if you do this?’ or ‘what are your parents going to say?’ and ‘what is your job going to say about that promotion?’

“After a while, as you get older and realise that none of those things are important. What is most important is how you reflect on how you are living your best life.”

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