If you notice changes in your sex drive that don’t feel normal to you, it is still worth going to a doctor. “These things can be a sign of chronic stress, hormonal problems or underlying health conditions that should be checked by your GP,” says Gasnault.

And the NHS also points out that a loss of libido can be a defence mechanism by the body to protect it from painful sex or relationship problems. Often, changes in your libido are masking else, so talk to an expert if you are concerned about your sexual health or desire.

Is everyone getting more than us?

In conversations with women about libido, it’s apparent that most of us are more worried about not getting enough than getting too much. In fact, only one person we speak to admits that they think their sex drive is “higher than 99% of my friends”. But it can’t be the case that all of us are below average – so why do we feel like it?

“The representation of sexing in the media is everywhere,” says Gasnault. “We live in a hyper-sexualised society that puts sex in the centre of everything, including almost all purchasing behaviours. The female body is objectified and sexualised at all times, and it’s normal that we feel a disconnect between what we actually experience in our authentic life versus what we see on these platforms.”

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