Have you ever noticed that when a friend or coworker makes a mistake, you say it’s totally fine and no big deal, but if you dare to make even the tiniest error, you’re quick to believe you’re a total failure and the worst person alive? It’s time to leave self-berating behind.

Next time things don’t go exactly as planned, treat yourself as you would a good friend; that means understanding your intentions, reassuring yourself and encouraging yourself to keep going.

“We should try to be kind and understanding rather than harshly self-critical,” Elliott urges. “Let go of perfectionism. It’s OK to make mistakes and not be perfect. It’s human. Try to focus on your strengths and progress, rather than dwelling on your flaws or failures.

“Practise self-forgiveness by being kind and forgiving yourself if you think you have missed something or haven’t accomplished your preferred outcome. Go in front of the mirror and say to yourself: ‘I forgive you and love you anyway.’”

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