At a time when we are all more stressed and overwhelmed by life pressures than before, Olivera’s post strikes a chord.

Ironically, the less time we have (women are especially hard hit) and the more demands we face – at work, in caring for loved ones and beyond – the greater the impulse is to appear “together”. As we compare and despair on channels such as Instagram, we also feel an overwhelming need to look and behave in a certain way.

This pressure alone is toxic, but it becomes more problematic still when we cannot show up, take up space or talk about what it is that we want from life without adhering to some pre-conditioned image of “success” or “togetherness”.

“A little more messy”: this message from a therapist beautifully sums up the power of being imperfect