“The ‘tunnel technique’ has been a game-changer for getting past difficult sessions”

As a full-time psychosexual and relationship therapist working up to 40 hours a week, Suzanne Lunn’s job can be very challenging. “I am holding space for clients who have experienced sexual assault, abuse or are potentially going through very painful relationship challenges,” she says. “Working with couples can sometimes also involve managing high-conflict situations, which can be very stressful.”

Over the years, Lunn has learned to use the ‘tunnel technique’ as a way to transition in and out of professional mode at the start and end of each working day. “I use my commute, or half an hour before starting working from home, to shift into work mode. This is the work tunnel. I check emails for anything urgent, review my diary for urgent appointments, ensure I have spaces for breaks and lunch and do any other prep to feel ready for the work day to come.”

On the commute home, Lunn spends time “shifting gears into relaxation/home mode: this is the home tunnel. For me, this means reading a novel, planning a meal, listening to music or going for a walk in the park. This allows me to shake off the stress of the day and be more present with family, friends and myself.”

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