Create a secret code

This is a great little tip that can make a big difference. “Create a secret code so that when they need to ‘escape’ from a situation, you know the signal,” Champ suggests.

You could also create codes for when your friend wants to vent, when they want to do something light and fun or for whatever scenario might come up. Think of it as a twist on Kate Lucey’s emoji trick.

Give them space to express their emotions

“If they cry, don’t try to change how they are feeling,” Champ says. “Grief needs expression, just as happiness does. We have to experience our grief, talk about it and share it to help reduce the weight of it. Grievers don’t need to be agreed with or understood. They just need you to listen and accept their words without analysing or justifying them.

“When a griever is talking about how their loss has made them feel, they are making a statement. Allow for little silences in the conversation.”

Be patient

There aren’t deadlines and easy endpoints when it comes to grief. Give your loved one time to heal.

“Don’t expect miracles,” says Champ. “It takes time to adjust to loss.”

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