Ah, life’s big questions – they can be a little overwhelming, can’t they? “Who am I? What do I want to do with my life? What shall I have for lunch?” We’ve all pondered them from time to time (read: at the counter of Pret), but we rarely get any answers.
Which is why we’ve decided to take a little inspiration from Pink Lady® apples. Why? Because they are the first to blossom, but the last to be harvested. They are resolute about how much time they need in the sun. They won’t be rushed, they won’t be bullied, and they most certainly won’t budge until they are ready. Sounds like we could all benefit from making our lives a little more Pink Lady®.
So to help you take on board a little more of the Pink Lady® philosophy, we’ve spoken to the brand’s psychologist friend Professor Janet Reibstein about how to make yourself feel that little bit more confident when it comes to finding your place in life.
Check out our five tips below:
1. Keep asking yourself questions
It’s important to periodically stop and take stock of where you are in life. To do this, think about the compliments you’ve received recently, what you’ve done well, what makes you feel good and what you want to aim for. Asking yourself these questions will help you learn where your strengths lie and develop in the future.
2. Test yourself. Constantly.
Don’t write off things that go ‘wrong’ as failures. These experiences give us robustness and help us learn what our strengths and weaknesses are. So get out of your comfort zone and do something which frightens you.
3. Break your own rules
We constantly make rules for ourselves which, when you think about them, are restrictive and ridiculous. For example, saying you’d never date a smoker. You’re dismissing a huge swathe of potential partners when a) they might quit or b) it might not bother you as much as you think. Realise that you have these rules and then ask yourself whether you actually want to follow them.
4. Do stuff you won’t like
You say, for example, that you don’t like running or team sports. How do you know? Often we base these dislikes on fleeting past experiences, hearsay or peer pressure. But if you try it, you might find out that you actually love the mindfulness that comes with running or the sense of belonging from being in a team. And if it turns out you do dislike it? Well, at least you know for sure.
5. Be curious and interested
Too often we focus on being interesting rather than being interested. But being interested in the world makes you interesting by default and it makes you more secure – by listening and being curious you understand both yourself and others better.