1. Get in the zone

As with all things in life, it’s better to be prepared for what’s ahead. If you arrive at a party already wishing you were anywhere else, it’s going to be a long night for everyone. Do whatever it is that gets your happy energy flowing before heading out (even if it’s sipping a cup of tea in your PJs), and have a time frame for your departure in mind.

2. Identify things you do like

You’ve likely got a good idea, or lengthy bullet point list, of what you don’t like about parties. Now it’s time to flip reverse it, and try to identify at least three things you will enjoy. Do you like the getting ready process? Is a friend you’ve not seen for a while also attending? Will there be tequila? Focus on the positives - though go steady if they’re all alcohol-related.

3. Find a buddy

Pairing up with somebody who also dislikes parties might sound like the logical thing to do, but it can be counterproductive. When you start flagging, you need somebody with a positive energy who’ll help to pep you up. Somebody who’s understanding of your predicament, but doesn’t necessarily share your sentiments, is ideal. Mingle with them if you can, but be careful not to kill their joy - see point four.

4. Take breaks

If you find the party scene exhausting, or keeping up small-talk a draining exercise, don’t be afraid to take a few breaks. Excuse yourself and nip to the bathroom (who’s to know there wasn’t really a queue in there?), or take a little walk and get some fresh air. It’ll help to break up the evening and preserve your mental energy. You’ll also give your party buddy a chance to mingle without you, and avoid monopolising their night.

5. Be choosy

If the party scene just isn’t for you, be picky about the ones you attend. You’re far more likely to have a good time if there are plenty of people you know, it's a celebration you're genuinely thrilled about too, or if the host is a close friend. If skipping a bash isn’t going to offend anyone, use your right to RSVP ‘thanks, but no thanks’ from time to time.

“I hate parties: here's my five-point survival guide for others who feel the same way”