Understandably, one of the bridesmaids – only named as ‘J’ in the Reddit thread – felt uncomfortable about being involved in the wedding. As such, she decided to write a (very nice) message to her insensitive bridezilla pal.

“I love you a lot but I have to bow out of being a bridesmaid,” she wrote, noting that she had expressed her concerns before the venue had been booked.

“I firmly believe that all plantations should be museums that highlight the atrocious injustices towards my community. We talked in great detail about exactly why I felt this way, and you told me your love for me outweighed your desire to have a wedding at a plantation, and I wouldn’t have to worry about it.”

J added that, even if she could put aside her own personal convictions for her pal’s big day, she could not risk damaging her career. “To be pictured and seen at a plantation wedding could cause harm to my professional reputation,” she said, “and, much as I love you, I cannot make that sacrifice.”

However, while J wasn’t able to attend, she did offer to pay for her bridesmaid dress – and said she would still love to be involved in the bridal shower and hen party.

“Please know that my issues with the chosen venue do not translate to issues with you and [your fiancé],” added J. “I love you both and I am so happy for the two of you.”

All very nice and reasonable, in our opinion. However, J’s unendingly patient and understanding message did not go down well with her bridezilla pal, who branded the whole thing “ridiculous”.

“How do I convince her that she’s being ridiculous and that what happened there was a long time ago and has no bearing on my wedding?” she asked the Reddit community, after admitting that she did remember promising her pal that she would never have a plantation wedding (“I thought she was being overly sensitive and would change her mind when my actual wedding came around”).

As you might expect, the Reddit community had a LOT to say about this thread. The general consensus, though, was that this bridezilla was un-f**king-believable.

Bride criticised for trying to bully black bridesmaid into a plantation wedding