With that in mind, then, she suggests that we start by appreciating an aspect of their relationship (for example, that you see the relationship makes them happy, and you, in turn, are happy for them).

“Be authentic and express your longing or wish from the ‘I position’ and suggest an option for the coming week,” she adds. “For example, say ‘I love our walks together, just the two of us, do you have any time next week to do that?’”

Ben-Ari finishes: “By being respectful (not talking about their partner’s behaviours or using any blame/shame tactics) and vulnerable (sharing how you feel), your friend is more likely to understand your point of view and to collaborate accordingly.

“And when you meet, be sure to celebrate your time together, enjoy each other’s company, and appreciate their effort and willingness to make this happen.”

Dr. Kalanit Ben-Ari is a psychologist, author and couples therapist www.kalanitbenari.com. You can follow her on Instagram here.

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