B: be careful what you let in

Outside influences can make a big difference to how you feel about yourself, so being careful about who (or what) you let in is an important step towards being your most confident self.

“Once you’ve put yourself first and are in a good place – I call this ‘Happy High Status’, a place of ego-free confidence where you’re ready for anything – you’ve got to be careful about who and what you let in,” Groskop explained, referencing an interview she did with Hilary Clinton, who said not making a plan for how to deal with Donald Trump – and letting him invade her space during debates – was one of the greatest regrets of her career.

But being careful about what you let in isn’t just about external people and things – it can also refer to your inner critic, Groskop added. “Often, I’m not so bothered by what other people think of me, but I’ve allowed that voice in my head to go, ‘Oh, that isn’t a very nice yellow on you; it doesn’t work,’” she said. “There’s always that voice, so the person you might need to protect yourself from is often you.”

How to build true, joyful confidence using the ABCD method