The unexpected sign that means that your boss rates you

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Find it tricky to tell what your manager really thinks of you? You need to read this

How do you know if your boss thinks you’re doing a good job?

Without asking for constant feedback, it can be surprisingly tricky to tell. 

Some managers are naturally more open than others when it comes to expressing what they think, and many people are simply too stretched to share observations either way. 

But there is one sign that could indicate you’re performing well - and it’s somewhat counter-intuitive. 

Suzanne Bates, US-based executive coach and author of All the Leader You Can Be,  says that a lack of compliments may be a signal that your boss actually rates you.

“They either think you already know you’re in good standing, they don’t want to seem to be favouring you, or they simply just forget because you do so many things well,” Bates tells Business Insider.

Doing well? Your boss won’t always shower you with compliments

Naturally, it doesn’t follow that if you’re doing badly, your manager will roll out the compliments. It’s more a case of, no news is good news. 

If you’re not hearing much feedback, it’s safe to assume you’re doing well (management etiquette being to respond quickly and decisively if there’s a problem).

What’s more, a boss who thinks you’re talented may be quite challenging in what they demand of you. 

This is because they can spot your potential, and judge that you’re worth stretching. 

If you’re doing well, expect some form of ‘tough love’, says Bates, “because he or she sees you as someone who can handle it and is ready for more responsibility”. 

Those with potential are often given greater demands

So, if you feel you’re being singled out for a lot of requests and tasks in comparison to your colleagues, that may be a positive sign.

That said, it’s important to remember that you are CEO of your own career. If you’re not happy with what is being asked of you, or feel that you’re not being given the feedback you need - take control.

Be friendly and direct in what you expect of those around you, including your boss, to stay in the driving seat of your own job.

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Anna Brech

Anna Brech is a freelance journalist and former editor for Her six-year stint on the site saw her develop a vociferous appetite for live Analytics, feminist opinion and good-quality gin in roughly equal measure. She enjoys writing across all areas of women’s lifestyle content but has a soft spot for books and escapist travel content.