I could say that going on First Dates was a a revelatory experience, where I discovered whole new facets of myself that I never realised existed. But I don’t think I did. And I don’t think that scouring social media will ever be the best way to find that, either.

What I do think is that I had a great laugh, I met someone lovely and then everything else was just amusing noise that passes, like birds outside your window twittering away.

I’m a believer that you should hopefully know and like yourself first, your best and worst qualities from a lifetime of being you, from family and friends and people that matter. It’s lovely to see so many laugh with you and it’s perfectly OK to see people not. It’s almost physically impossible to be everyone’s cup of tea. So you might as well as well be as milky or sugary as you want: go full fat full cream, go peppermint, go sprinkle some sequins in there.

It’s your tea metaphor. You make it however you want.

Channel 4’s First Dates airs on Mondays at 8pm.

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