If you have a strong suspicion that your friend is a victim of domestic abuse, there are a number of different steps you can take. I highly recommend keeping a personal log of any instances of abuse you witness, on behalf of your friend. Even if they are not ready to admit that they are a victim yet, or you have not had a chance to broach the topic with them, gathering evidence on their behalf will prove incredibly helpful for them when they decide to take action.

The evidence is also less likely to be discovered by their abuser if it is stored at a friend’s house. Record any physical signs of abuse, but also log instances of verbal or emotional abuse you witness, as they will also help in building a case.

Being a victim of domestic abuse is often painfully isolating, and your friend may stay with their abuser because they feel there is no way out or no one to turn to. Be supportive; attend hospital appointments, listen to their problems without judging, go to the police with them when they are ready to do so and help them plan a safe strategy to leave the relationship when they feel ready to do so. If possible, they may need financial support too, if you do not feel comfortable helping them financially, you can help them research if they are entitled to any help from the government.

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, you can find advice and support from Refuge and Women’s Aid.

What to do if you suspect your friend is a victim of domestic abuse