Self-massage can give us a good dose of calming and loving feelings through the vagus nerve and oxytocin stimulation. Rubbing your hands, feet or temples can really help.
Brushing your hair can feel really caring and have a similar effect to massage.
Warmth helps us to feel comforted so wrapping yourself up in a blanket can be a lovely way to give yourself a hug.
Tapping on acupressure points is a great technique to learn or simply humming along to your favourite tune is good as the vibrations stimulate the vagus nerve.
Orgasm is a wonderful way to reduce stress and produce oxytocin.
Making sure you have a good sleep routine which includes no screen time and dimming the lights for half an hour before bed can help to boost our melatonin which in turn helps us produce oxytocin.
Improve your sense of connectedness through being in nature even if it is just taking a moment to feel the sun on our face or listen to the birds singing.
Kindness meditations, yoga, dancing and a hot bath, making yourself a really nice meal and mindfully enjoying it.
Giving and helping others and remembering times we have enjoyed feeling close to our loved ones all promote our social engagement systems and our sense of safe connectedness.

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