Proposed gender-neutral changing rooms at various swimming pools and gyms have been decried basically on the grounds that, as things stand, while most men are not perverts, most perverts are men and therefore the greatest unogled happiness for the greatest number of people lies in not welcoming them into the vicinity of female nakedness.

But the fact that change can quickly get tricky and that mistakes can be made should neither stop us trying to make it nor rectifying those mistakes and trying again. Where sex and gender are truly irrelevant, we should stop asking about it. And where they are, we should accommodate that too. And all the while, working to change a system that still refuses to accept either that we can be the same, or that we can be different – but equal.

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Lucy Mangan is sick of everyone quizzing her about her gender: “Why does it matter?”