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Barista wins mansplainer of the year after lecturing a pregnant woman on what she’s allowed to drink

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Megan Murray
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You might think that once you’ve read one mansplaining story, you’ve read them all. But this particularly patronising barista has shown us we can still be shocked. 

Here’s three examples of people that might be best placed to tell a pregnant woman what she should be putting into her body: a midwife, a nutritional therapist with a special interest in fertility, pregnancy and postnatal care or her doctor.

Here’s an example of someone who a pregnant woman should never feel the need to take nutritional advice from: a random man she’s never met before, serving her coffee at Starbucks.

However, stand-up comedian Tiff Stevenson witnessed this very situation unfold before her eyes, and tweeted the world to spread the message: men, stop assuming you know more about a woman’s body than she does.

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Taking to Twitter, Stevenson described the scene, writing: “Unbelievable bit of womb bothering in Starbucks at services. A pregnant woman got her Caramel Macchiato and the guy behind the counter said ‘Oh, it’s for you. Do you want me to make a decaf?’

“She said ‘No, thanks.’ 

Him ‘No I should because caffeine is bad for the baby’”

As the exchange continued, Stevenson says the pregnant woman impressively managed to keep her cool (far better than we would have done). Stevenson herself, however, found herself struggling to listen to anymore.

Continuing to describe the scene, the comedian reveals that the woman politely informed the barista that “it’s fine” for her to drink coffee, and that she usually has “one a day.”

Stevenson says that, at this point, she felt compelled to tell the “unbelievable” barista to “stop it”.

“Then he continues to try and justify policing a complete stranger for five minutes. He was maybe 30 years old max. Are they also doing Ob/Gyn training at Starbucks these days?”

It’s fair to say the reaction on Twitter has been brilliant. From women sharing their own stories of inappropriate pregnancy-related behaviour to some well-picked memes, as usual, the women of Twitter were in support of the “no uterus no opinion” sentiment – and we’re so here for it. 

Twitter user Rosie Seed, for example, said she experienced the very same thing, and that it ground her gears too. 

We told you there were some well chosen memes and this Rachel Green moment will forever go down in history as an instant mansplainer come back.

Another woman also experienced some shaming from a barista, but had a brilliant, if not slightly dark, come back.

While another has clearly been quizzed enough, she knows her stuff on the subject.

The NHS states that pregnant women can drink coffee when they’re pregnant, they should just limit that amount to the equivalent of two mugs of instant coffee a day, hence why our super mum with incredible powers of patience probably responded with “I have one a day.”

Not that that really matters, though. At the end of the day, while it’s not illegal for a man to ask a woman why she’s doing something to her body, it’s deeply inappropriate to challenge her continuously on her personal choices, and assume he knows more about her pregnancy than she does.

So, on that note, here is some advice for all pregnancy mansplainers: shut up, and let women drink their bloody coffees in peace.

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Megan Murray is a digital journalist for stylist.co.uk, who enjoys writing about London happenings, beautiful places, delicious morsels and generally spreading sparkle wherever she can.

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