Proving that she has no time for tired questions about the father of her daughter, Mindy Kaling just gave the best response to a journalist.
Mindy Kaling is enjoying major success right now. Well, even more so than usual.
Stylist loves Kaling’s new film, Late Night, which she stars in with legend Emma Thompson. And she’s just announced a new collection of essays to be published through Amazon. She also pretty much confirmed that she’s working on bringing Marvels’ Ms Marvel to the screen. Oh, and she co-created the highly-anticipated Four Weddings and a Funeral – a 10-episode series based on the 1994 film – which is due to be released on Hulu in July.
Suffice to say: there’s plenty of really cool stuff to talk to the actor, writer, producer and comedian about. And yet, people still think it’s OK to ask her tired questions about her personal life. In particular, they’re fixated on Kaling’s motherhood experience.
During an interview with New York Times Magazine this week, Kaling was asked how she reached the decision not to confirm who the father of her child is.
For context: Maling gave birth to her daughter Katherine in 2017. She has never disclosed the father’s identity and she rarely shares a photo of her daughter. Fast forward 18 months and the media is still obsessed with speculating over who her father is.
So, her simple yet strong response to the question was: “My feeling is that until I speak to my daughter about that, I’m not going to talk to anyone else about it.”
And this is exactly why the guessing game has to stop. The one person to think about here is Kaling’s 18-month-old daughter, which is exactly what the actor is doing. Gossip about her father isn’t going to be a healthy thing to Google in future years.
Kaling isn’t the only high profile woman to have to bat away questions about motherhood, even though we are now in 2019.
Earlier this year, pop icon Kylie Minogue told Sunday Times Magazine that she wants thoughtless people to stop asking when she’ll have kids. Minogue reminded all those who felt obliged to grill her over her reproductive status that she was 36 years old when, in 2005, she was diagnosed with breast cancer.
“Trust me, there’s a point when the next person who says, ‘Well, there are so many options’, you want to scream,” said Minogue. “Of course, it’s great there are options. It’s marvellous! But when you’re dealing with all the other stuff and things that you took for granted are taken away from you, it’s like, yes there are options, but…”
And Paloma Faith recently felt compelled to explain why she’s keeping the gender of her baby a secret. “I won’t say whether I have a boy or a girl for privacy reasons. I want my child to go to normal schools and integrate with kids from different backgrounds as a human being, not as a child of a celebrity,” she said.
If a woman chooses to talk about her child, then that’s fine. But we need to stop probing them about motherhood when they’ve already vocalised clear decisions that they want to keep it private.