Life

This misogynist’s guide on ‘how to keep a man’ is so bad, even men are apologising for him

Posted by
Megan Murray
Published

Another day, another vile misogynist takes to Twitter and awakens the wrath of hundreds of women. But this time it’s so painfully regressive, even the men are getting involved. 

We’re not even sure where to start with this one so we’re just going to give it to you straight. You know all the disgusting, damaging and utterly unfair expectations that have been enforced on women since pretty much the beginning of time? Like, that a man’s sexual pleasure is the only one that matters or the sole responsibility of cleaning or cooking is on the woman? Yeah those, outdated, archaic notions? 

Well, one genius has decided to draw upon them to create a six point dating guide, explaining to the women of the world how they can ‘hold on to a man.’ See, we told you it was bad. 

Twitter user Richard Cooper has set a new standard of misogyny (go you, Richard!) with his list of attributes that he – after clearly appointing himself as the official spokesperson on what women should and shouldn’t do – says will make any man happy. 

As we said, where to even start with this? First, the idea that any women wants to change herself, her skills or behaviours for the purpose of attracting and then “keeping” a man is degrading and dehumanising. In case anyone out there was unsure about this one, women are not on this earth for the pleasure of men, and it is not our life’s purpose to find a partner. 

But moving on to the actual points mentioned, each one is so steeped in regression and oppression, it’s actually painful to begin unpicking them. 

For example, according to Cooper “don’t be a single mum” is a staple factor when meeting a partner. As if women should delete their lives and history up to the point of starting a new relationship, simply to lay themselves open as a blank canvas for this new man in their life. Or, that they should be ashamed of having a child (generally seen as a wonderful, beautiful thing) because it might put off a potential suitor. 

Cooper’s tweet (and actually most of his tweets if you want to give him the air time of looking at his profile) is not only vile, but dangerous, and so we’re not going to spend our precious time looking into it any further. 

What is interesting, and quite funny, though, is how many men have been so downright appalled by his words that they’ve come forward to apologise for his stain on the male gender. 

One male Twitter user called Rider To The South asked the question everyone’s been thinking: “You are single, aren’t you?”

While another said, “So dude I am assuming you haven’t been out of the parent’s basement for a few years…”

But as usual, the real humdingers came from the ladies who, as a previous roasting of a guy who thought periods only happened at night to JK Rowling’s constant raising of the Twitter troll responses bar have shown, know how to deal with these things best. 

The Feminist Next Door wrote a cutting reply that we particularly enjoyed, mainly for its obvious truthfulness, saying: “Maybe you haven’t found what you want because nobody’s trying to keep you around, Richard.”

While Karen Callesoe made a very good point, writing: “You know men are the leading cause of single motherhood, right?”

But sometimes only a GIF will do, and here are some of our favourites. 

Now, join us, in a collective sticking up of the middle finger to Cooper and all those like him.

Images: Twitter 

Topics

Share this article

Author

Megan Murray

Megan Murray is a digital journalist for stylist.co.uk, who enjoys writing about London happenings, beautiful places, delicious morsels and generally spreading sparkle wherever she can.

Recommended by Megan Murray

Life

The grossly sexist ads we can’t believe exist in the 21st century

From a sexist Easter egg to a deeply offensive Protein World poster, these adverts all made headlines for the wrong reasons...

Posted by
Kayleigh Dray
Published
People

JK Rowling delivers perfect takedown of anti-immigration tweet

JK Rowling delivers perfect takedown of anti-immigration tweet

Posted by
Susan Devaney
Published
Life

Women respond to French author who said women over 50 are “invisible” to him

“Women ALL OVER THE GLOBE are devastated that this rather exhausted looking 50 yr old tiny man has written us all off.”

Posted by
Megan Murray
Published
Life

Over 26 and single? Society has a new name for you…

Forget spinsterhood: this viral Twitter thread has redefined what it means to be unmarried in a boringly patriarchal society.

Posted by
Kayleigh Dray
Published
Life

Women abused on Twitter every thirty seconds

The study shows the shocking extent of misogyny

Posted by
Emily Reynolds
Published