There’s no point denying it: weddings bring out the best and the worst in people.

For every tale of a bride donating her wedding feast to the homeless, or using her big day to bring happiness to one of her best friends, there’s another about a bridesmaid being ordered to gain weight so that she doesn’t outshine the woman in white on her big day. Or the bride demanding that her pal sleep with the best man, because he refused to do the job unless there was a “guaranteed lay for him”. Or, y’know, any number of other painful, painful requests as reported by scarred wedding party members.

Yes, we’ve all seen our fair share of shocking wedding stories. Not many, though, are quite as galling as this mother-of-the-bride’s tone-deaf letter.

This mother-of-the-bride's letter has gone viral, for all the wrong reasons