Weddings are supposed to be lovely occasions for all involved. Whether you’re the one getting married or a guest sharing the happy couple’s special day, a wedding should be a day devoid of tension and arguments.

But we’re only human, and for every person who gets to officiate their friend’s wedding, there is the possibility of a conflict between a bride and a bridesmaid.

The latest comes via a Reddit thread in which a recently-married woman wants to know if she was unreasonable with a demand she made of one of her pregnant bridesmaids.

The bridesmaid, called Kate in the post, was seven months pregnant at the time of the nuptials. She, like the other bridesmaids, wore a dress that had “quite a flowy skirt with a fitted bust”.

A pregnant bridesmaid was told to stop holding her baby bump – by the bride