Regardless of our levels of success, we can always take advice from other women.
Priyanka Chopra Jonas seems like she has everything sorted. She’s had a successful film career in Bollywood. She’s one the few actors who’s successfully transitioned to America where she’s starred in a hit TV show, Quantico, and alongside Dwayne Johnson in Baywatch. She’s found love with Nick Jonas and had the wedding of her dreams.
Most of us would expect a successful person like Chopra Jonas to be someone who should be handing out advice.
But, and this may be a surprise, she’s currently trying to figure out what to do with her life, and has turned to three successful women to help her with this.
In a new video on her YouTube channel, Chopra Jonas speaks to American gymnast Simone Biles, actress Awkwafina and fashion designer Diane Von Furstenberg, and asks them to give her one piece of advice that shaped their lives.
And, reassuringly, the three women also share their own failures and insecurities, showing us they’re only human too. The video speaks powerfully to the challenges of being a woman in today’s world.
Chopra says: “Right now I’m in my 30s trying to figure out where I go next, what I do next, what’s the next phase in my life.
“I guess getting married really made me think about what a next chapter is.”
Biles spoke openly about going to therapy and about when she first realised she was a victim of sexual abuse.
For her segment of the video Awkwafina took Chopra Jonas for patbingsu - Korean shaved ice cream - where the pair bonded over condensed milk and desserts they love, as well as their grandmothers.
Awkwafina confessed that she developed humour as a child as a defence mechanism: “I lost my mum very young so people when they saw me they would cry. I didn’t like to be this emblem of sorrow for people, I wanted people to be happy, I wanted them to feel joy.”
The actress and singer, who starred in Crazy Rich Asians, was brought up by her grandmother, and her one thing for Chopra Jonas was advice from her grandmother.
“It’s a piece of advice I live and die by,” says Awkwafina. “Life is only a series of ups and downs, when you go up there’s nowhere to go but down, and when you’re down, there’s nowhere to go but up. So there is a kind of balance.”
Von Furstenberg, who Chopra Jonas described as a “wild child”, spoke about getting married young, and wanting “a man’s life in a woman’s body”.
“That was my dream,” she says. “Why can men go and have affairs and women can’t? Or they have to feel guilty about it.”
Laughing, Von Furstenberg confesses that she had “a lot” of affairs, and is “very happy I did”.
Von Furstenberg is famous for inventing the wrap dress, but says that while “everybody said I made the wrap dress…the wrap dress made me”.
Now, more than 40 years after her first wrap dress was and at the age of 72, Von Furstenberg tells Chopra Jonas that she want to “use my voice to tell all women that they too can be the woman they want to be”.
“Because I’ve never met a woman who’s not strong, they don’t exist,” she continues. “Women should know that they’re strong.”
After jokingly telling Chopra Jonas that the one piece of advice she wants to give her is “have children”, Von Furstenberg gives her real advice: “The most important relationship in life is the one you have with have is with yourself. There’s no other advice that is more important than that. Relationship number one is with yourself.”
Von Furstenberg adds: “Liking and loving yourself doesn’t mean you are so pleased with yourself, it’s just owning who you are. To help your partner to own who they are and to be the best of who they are is part of the role that you have.”
Chopra Jonas may have turned to Biles, Awkwafina and Von Furstenberg for advice and inspiration, but she ends by making her own confession: “I think I’m a control freak because that’s the only thing I’ve ever known. If you want to achieve something, if you want to get something, you have to work at it.
“It stops me from having fun sometimes… The one thing I know and need help with is not taking myself that seriously.”
Chopra’s awareness of her own limitations, and her willingness to try something that makes her afraid - she goes to karaoke with Awkwafina - is as inspiring as the stories and advice of the women she interviews.
We’ll be taking on the advice of all the women in the video by being brave, remembering life has ups and downs, prioritising ourselves and not taking ourselves too seriously.