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These rape prevention tips are going viral for all the right reasons

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“You shouldn’t have gotten so drunk. You shouldn’t have worn such a provocative outfit. You shouldn’t have walked home alone…”

The list goes on and on.

We’ve all heard misogynists spout out the same awful ‘rape prevention tips’ time and time again – and, every single time, their comments are entirely invalid. The victim is never to blame for rape: the rapist is.

Now, to tackle victim-blaming, one redditor has posted a series of brilliant tips on how best to prevent rape. And, this time, the rules target the would-be rapists.

“If someone is drunk, don’t rape them"

“If someone is drunk, don’t rape them"

“If someone is drunk, don’t rape them,” the list  advises, before adding: “When you see someone walking by themselves, leave them alone.”

The post goes on to suggest that would-be rapists employ a ‘buddy system’: “If it is difficult for you to stop yourself from raping someone, ask a trusted friend to accompany you at all times.”

Similarly, they should carry a rape whistle. “If you find that you are about to rape someone,” the list suggests blowing the whistle until someone comes to stop you.



Finally, the post ends by advising would-be rapists to be honest with their intended victims.

“When asking someone out, don't pretend that you are interested in them as a person. Tell them straight up that you expect to be raping them later. If you don't communicate your intentions, they may take it as a sign that you do not plan to rape them.”

Rape culture demeans everyone and everyone should speak out against rape culture

The pamphlet adds at the bottom: “Rape culture directs women to police their clothing, beverage, behaviour and sexuality at all times to avoid men. It portrays men as powerless against their violent sexual urges. Rape culture demeans everyone and everyone should speak out against rape culture.”

A similar list of rules went viral in 2015, shortly after US comedian Sarah Silverman tweeted them. Though the reaction to this list has been largely positive, some redditors were concerned that the ‘tips’ could prove misleading.

“The sort of things listed in the above picture promotes the idea that rape is always done by a stranger in a dark alley, which makes victims of acquaintance rape less likely to come forward, and also less likely to be taken seriously if they do,” wrote one.



However Sarahw_, who posted the original image online, was quick to respond to critics.

“I just want to point out that the purpose of the pamphlet is not to be read by and persuade rapists not to rape, it is a satire (a comedic exposition of irony) to highlight the current victim blaming culture and lack of effort to change the perpetrators’ mentality and behaviour,” she wrote.

“I don’t think that giving victims safety tips is bad or wrong – if someone were to hand out a pamphlet about ways not to get burglarized, an effective pamphlet would give the homeowner tips to safe-proof their home.

“But in the case of rape, if the focus is entirely on the victim and not on the culture and education/rehabilitation for the perpetrator, then it frames women as targets unless heavily policed, and men as powerless against their assumed aggressive sexuality.”

If you need help, information or support, please visit the Rape Crisis website now.

Images: Reddit / iStock

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Kayleigh Dray is editor of Stylist.co.uk, where she chases after rogue apostrophes and specialises in films, comic books, feminism and television. On a weekend, you can usually find her drinking copious amounts of tea and playing boardgames with her friends. 

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