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Female comedian's flawless argument about victim blaming goes viral on Facebook

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In the year 2016, you’d be forgiven for thinking that the world is enlightened enough to understand that nobody is ever “asking” to be raped or sexually assaulted.

Yet, as we have seen from countless news reports, many people continue to claim that these victims are, somehow, to blame.

Phrases like “she was asking for it” are thrown around, with many people claiming that what victims wear and how they behave determines whether they are partly responsible for being attacked.

In 2015, former Pretenders frontwoman Chrissie Hynde suggested that women who wear high heels had “better be good on their feet”.

She added: “If I’m walking around in my underwear and I’m drunk? Who else’s fault can it be?”

It goes without saying that people who blame the victim are dangerously mistaken – and idiotic; rape is only ever the fault of the rapist. And the word 'no' is never up for interpretation.

Now Alice Brine, a stand-up comedian based in New Zealand, has shared a status on Facebook which perfectly highlights the flaws in victim blaming.

"I'm gunna start going home with random very drunk guys and stealing all of their shit," wrote Alice on Facebook. "Everything they own.

“It won't be my fault though... they were drunk. They should have known better.”

She continued: "I'll get away with it 90% of the time but then when one brave man takes me to court over it, I'll argue that I wasn't sure if he meant it when he said 'no don't steal my Audi.' I just wasn't sure if he meant it. 

“I said 'Can I please steal your Gucci watch?' He said 'no' but I just wasn't sure if he meant it.”

Brine finished: “He was drunk. He brought this on himself. You should have seen how he was dressed at the club, expensive shirts and shoes. What kind of message is he sending with that!? 

“I thought he wanted me to come and steal all of his shit. He was asking for it. When he said 'no' to me taking everything he owned I just didn't know if he meant it. 'No' isn't objective enough, it could mean anything.”

Her post has reached thousands of people, with over 133,000 ‘likes’ on Facebook, and almost 60,000 shares.

Brine told Buzzfeed that the response to her post has been “extremely positive”.

She said: “I’ve got messages from people all over the world telling me how relieved they are to read the status. Finally putting into words something that they’ve given up trying to explain because of the countless arguments they have to get into about it.

“Now they can just print out the screenshot and carry it around if they need to prove their point to someone.”

Images: Instagram, Facebook

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Kayleigh Dray

Kayleigh Dray is editor of Stylist.co.uk, where she chases after rogue apostrophes and specialises in films, comic books, feminism and television. On a weekend, you can usually find her drinking copious amounts of tea and playing boardgames with her friends. 

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