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African women are sharing their sexual experiences, and it’s so important

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Hollie Richardson
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Blogger and activist Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah is encouraging women to open up about their sexual pleasure and desires in Ghana on the Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women platform. 

Conversations around sex are important. We recently examined why it’s time to talk about sexual incompatibility, and discovered the one thing stopping us from having great sex (according to Dr Ruth). 

Now, a news report by The Nzinga Effect writer Eliza Anyangwe has been published on CNN exploring the global conversation. It puts the spotlight on an African blogger who has spoken out about why she wants to encourage people in Ghana to talk about their sexual experiences and desires.

Having a safe space to openly talk about sex shouldn’t be a privilege, but for women in Accra, Ghana, many don’t feel confident in openly discussing it. According to Anyangwe, although sex isn’t hidden in Accra, advertisements very much play to men’s sexual desires and insecurities, which must surely give an omnipresent feeling of suppression.

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This is why Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah set up the Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women blog in 2009, to create a safe space for women to talk all things sex – and it does not hold back. Split into sections such as fiction, heterosexual, lesbian, sex education and relationships, it examines sex from all angles and personal experiences.

To give you a taster of just how straight-to-the-point and empowering it is, previous posts have discussed how to send nudes safely, why women get “SO wet” and having sex in your 40s.

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Sekyjamah has explained why it’s important to change the global narrative of African women’s sex lives, which so often focuses on controlling fertility and disease.

“Within the international development discourse, whenever African women’s sexual and reproductive health is mentioned, they are spoken about as vectors of disease, or the conversation is about needing to control the fertility of African women,” Sekyjamah said in the CNN interview. 

“This discourse leaves out so much, specifically, the importance of African women controlling their own bodies. Pleasure is connected to well-being and so comprehensive sex education is essential to a woman’s full development. If you don’t have control over your body, what can you really have control over?”

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Despite there being many programs run by the government and international charities which focus on sexual and reproductive health, Sekyiamah told CNN that these programs tend to ignore sexual pleasure.

This is why it’s so important for women in Ghana to have an online space like Adventures from the Bedrooms of African Women.

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