The benefits of MakeLoveNotPorn

Our members tell us we’ve saved marriages, rejuvenated relationships, transformed communication, helped healing from erectile dysfunction and post-cancer, helped reclaim their sexuality post-sexual abuse, sparked a long-wanted pregnancy, and expanded sexual repertoires. And our contributors (or, as we like to call them, our MakeLoveNotPornstars) tell us that socially sharing their #realworldsex has been as transformative for them and their relationships as socially sharing everything else has been for the world at large.

We have many solo videos of women and men who’ve filmed themselves masturbating, usually for the first time ever, and shared the videos of those extremely intimate moments on MakeLoveNotPorn. Our solo MakeLoveNotPornstars tell us that doing that made them love themselves more. It enhanced their sense of self, their sexual self-esteem. And our MakeLoveNotPornStar couples tell us it transformed their relationship – because when you decide to film yourselves having sex, you have to talk about it. And when you talk about it, it doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together; the conversation goes places it’s never gone before.

It’s worth noting that the vast majority of our MakeLoveNotPornstars had never filmed themselves doing anything sexual before. They’re doing it for us, because they believe in our social mission, and they share our sexual values. And it is just as important to note that we revenue-share: our members pay to subscribe and stream social sex videos, and half that income goes to our contributors.

Not everybody whom we’ve inspired to film their #realworldsex becomes a MakeLoveNotPornstar. Take Kim and Pete, MakeLoveNotPorn members for the past three years, who told us how they benefitted when they started filming but not (yet!) sharing:

“It quite literally gave us a different perspective on what we did with each other,” the couple explains. “As with the videos from MakeLoveNotPorn it got us talking about things and suggesting other approaches. We could see each other’s facial expressions at those times when our own faces were concentrating on other parts of their body…

“Given our experience with just the first of our videos I would suggest that even if, like us, you’re not sure about becoming a MakeLoveNotPornStar you should certainly give it a try with your partner. Consensually, of course.”

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