Woman forced to leave pool because misogynists couldn’t handle her swimming costume

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As loyal readers will no doubt be aware, the objectification of women is nothing new – particularly when it comes to vile and sexist dress codes. We’ve seen teenagers ordered to cover up their “distracting” collarbones at school, university students ordered to show their cleavage at graduation, 12-year-old girls being banned from wearing vest tops in the height of summer, women being told that their belly buttons should never be visible whilst at the gym, and so many more.

But we continue to report on these awful stories, because these women need a voice – and the louder we bang this drum, the more likely it is that our voices need to be heard: our bodies are our bodies, and we have the last say on how and if and when we choose to cover them up, thank-you very much.

Which is why we bring you this tale of a woman who was ordered to vacate her own apartment building’s swimming pool, because misogynists couldn’t handle her pink one-piece.

Taking to Facebook, Tyler Newman – who lives in Tennessee with his fiancée, Tori Jenkins – explained that Jenkins was left feeling belittled and embarrassed by the exchange.

“Today my fiancée was faced with either changing her bathing suit, covering up with shorts, or leaving the pool that we paid a $300 (£234) fee to maintain on top of a monthly rent of nearly $1000 (£781)’ he wrote.

“Tori was accused of wearing a ‘thong bathing suit’ and told there were complaints about the way she was dressed after roughly 3 minutes tops, of us arriving there.”

When Jenkins tried to address the issue with her apartment office, they allegedly ordered her to take a photograph of herself, so that she could see “how inappropriate” her swimsuit was.

She was also told that she just couldn’t ever hope to understand the issue, because she doesn’t have kids of her own. Right.

“When Tori explained that yes, she does indeed have a larger butt than a lot of people, and that 95% of the things she wears ride up when she walks, the woman told Tori that a ‘normal bathing suit covers your entire butt’ and again deemed my fiancée’s body inappropriate,” explained Newman.

“She was told that her body, because it's built more curvy than others is ‘too inappropriate’ for children to be around. She was told ‘there are a lot of teenage boys in this complex, and you don't need to excite them.’

“Today my fiancée was told that she is less important than how men feel around her. That Tori is less important than a man's urges to be sexual towards her. I think she's the most beautiful woman in the world, but I also respect her. I would never make her or any other woman feel less than what she's worth because of her outfit or her looks.

“This is how rape culture continues to grow.”

Newman added: “I've never seen my fiancée embarrassed to the point where she can't even look her best friends in the face. I've never seen her cry like she did in our apartment today. Never seen her want to be isolated like that. All because some ignorant assholes think they can police the size and shape of her body. I've never seen a woman so disrespected.”

He finished by saying: “My fiancée being told she should cover up on a 90 degree day in our own apartment pool because she will ‘excite teenage boys’ is bullshit.

“I will not stand for this. My fiancée should be able to wear a bathing suit without being sexualised and demeaned. She shouldn't feel violated.”


If a few misogynists are going to balk at the sight of a woman enjoying herself in the swimming pool, then they’re the ones who need to vacate the area: summer is a time for sunshine and happiness, after all, and the pool would undoubtedly be a better place without their vitriolic sexism tainting the water. 

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Kayleigh Dray

Kayleigh Dray is Stylist’s digital editor-at-large. Her specialist topics include comic books, films, TV and feminism. On a weekend, you can usually find her drinking copious amounts of tea and playing boardgames with her friends.