What did you learn about yourself by doing that?

“I didn’t have a very emotionally safe environment growing up. I had one parent who suffered from very, very severe depression and another who was completely void of emotion. And at the same time, I was completely rejected by my peers (I was bullied at school). So I had no safe space. Which I’m sure contributed to why I felt the need to escape [with drugs] once I got older.

Now, I’m raising my son Wolfe [who is four] to have a positive mindset – and to see the consequences of that firsthand is unbelievable. He’s always expressing joy for little things – something smelling nice, finding a parking space when we’re out together. His new favourite thing to say is ‘this is wonderful’ or ‘this is fascinating’. When I look back to my childhood at his age, I think: god, I didn’t stand a chance to be happy.”

Toxic positivity is something people worry about these days. How is it different from the positivity we try to practise when manifesting?

“Often, I’ll hear someone say: ‘I’ve had a really bad day; I’m worried I’m ruining my manifesting practice.’ To which I think, no, you’re not because we all have bad days and that can’t be avoided. Toxic positivity stems from the notion that you should be happy and positive all the time. Instead, optimism is about knowing that even on the dark days, better days are coming. Don’t shut down those feelings: the greatest practice of self-love is being able to honour all of our emotions. That’s the difference.”

Where does gratitude factor into this? Should we all be making gratitude lists?

“People sometimes struggle with their gratitude practice because they’ve been taught to list three things they’re grateful for each day. So they write ‘my family, my health, my house’ – always the same things – and they’re not actually sinking into that feeling of appreciation.

Instead, I keep a positivity journal. Every night I write down each good thing that happened from the minute I woke up to the minute I went to bed. Go as small as possible: somebody smiling at you on the way to work, your morning coffee, the sun shining, whatever it is. You train your subconscious to start looking out for the good in your life and paying attention to those ordering moments.”

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