When white women go missing – it’s everywhere. When it’s women of colour that sense of urgency disappears and we’re forced to create it ourselves in order to get a smidgen of attention – and it’s exhausting.

We consistently have to mobilise, tweet, fight, email and claw our way to get the awareness that we deserve. This is a collective trauma that we share and we are working tirelessly to break a cycle that it feels we have no control over.

The fact that this has happened yet again with Sabina Nessa’s murder is even more disheartening in a situation that is hard enough – but we are seeing more efforts being made to keep her story in the public’s mind.

Online organisations like Sisters Uncut and Reclaim the Streets have always been doing the work - as have Black and brown women within their communities. But there seems to be a renewed sense of urgency following Sabina Nessa’s murder to ensure her story doesn’t fly under the radar like others unfortunately have.

People are sharing her images, saying her name, urging people to share any information they have with the police and holding the media to account to make sure that women’s stories, our stories, are amplified and heard.

We’ve seen this happen for far too long, and I’m hopeful that as more people join in this fight we as people can collectively inflict change.

We may often hold the mantle and create the urgency ourselves but I’m seeing people from all walks of life give us the boost we need. Let’s hope the rest of the world can get on board – I, for one, am tired.

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Sabina Nessa: the care and coverage given to white victims should apply to women of colour