When Poorna Bell lost her husband to suicide she went through the hardest heartbreak of her life. Here's what she learned along the way.

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Poorna Bell: 10 things I want you to know about heartbreak

2. If your heart gets broken, it’s not always something you’ve done

4. Heartbreak is the absence of love, but it means you experienced it

5.  It teaches you more about yourself each time, and what you need from a partner

6. Sometimes things don’t work out for a reason

7. Heartbreak teaches you a lot about what you shouldn’t compromise on as a woman

8. Heartbreak creates a furnace where some of the strongest friendships are forged

10. The only thing you can be certain of is that the pain of it will pass

Author Poorna Bell on the effects of loss