As humans, we are inherently flawed.
Yet for some reason, we seem to constantly strive for perfection, despite it being a pointless endeavour (because there is no such thing). Then, when we inevitably fail or make mistakes, we not only punish ourselves for it but many of us also receive criticism from others, more so if we’re in the public eye.
She’s been accused of cheating on him and in a candid clap back on social media, Cyrus put those rumours to rest in the best way possible, while also teaching the world a valuable lesson in accepting your past.
“I can accept that the life I’ve chosen means I must live completely open and transparent with my fans who I love, and the public, 100% of the time,” she wrote.
“What I cannot accept is being told I’m lying to cover up a crime I haven’t committed. I have nothing to hide.”
And she really doesn’t; the 26-year-old goes on to list controversial incidents, including having lost business deals because of drug use, cheating on former partners and referencing the music video where she swung naked on a wrecking ball.
Cyrus, who is known for championing body and sex positivity, also unashamedly announced “there are probably more nudes of me on the internet than maybe any woman in history”.
The important part of her lengthy thread isn’t that she is willingly sharing details of her life, but rather that she is doing so without apologising for it – and she shouldn’t.
“There are NO secrets to uncover here. I’ve learned from every experience in my life. I’m not perfect, I don’t want to be, it’s boring.”
She makes an excellent point; being perfect isn’t something to strive for, because you will only end up making yourself unhappy.
Your life is your own, and you don’t owe other people an explanation for your choices (with the exception being if your actions have affected their life in a direct way).
Everyone makes mistakes and there is nothing to be gained from putting yourself down because you’ve messed up or didn’t live your life according to what others believe is right.
This is particularly difficult for women, because there are so many expectations placed upon us, most of which are unattainable, sexist or misogynistic.
We should be beautiful, but not boastful. We should be sexual, but not overtly so. We should speak up, but be careful not to appear bossy if we do.
And if we don’t tick the “right” boxes (getting married, having kids, retaining our youthful looks), someone, somewhere will make sure we’re aware of it.
Let’s take a page out of Cyrus’ book and ignore other people’s opinions.
Mess up, make mistakes and take risks while knowing that if everything goes wrong, that’s perfectly fine.
You are not less amazing because you didn’t succeed at everything. The sooner we realise this is just a part of life, the happier we’ll be.
Like she said, perfect is boring. Own who you are, and don’t apologise for it.