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Husband of author who wrote heartbreaking dating profile for him speaks out a year after her death

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The husband of a woman who wrote a viral love letter about their relationship has spoken out, a year after her death.

In 2017, author Amy Krouse Rosenthal went viral when she wrote a touching and heartbreaking letter to her husband in the New York Times’ Modern Love section. 

The letter acted as a ‘dating profile’ for husband of 26 years, Jason – and was published just ten days before she died.

Now, a year on, husband Jason has spoken about the events at the 2018 TED conference – describing the mixture of deep pain and “occasional joys” his wife had allowed him to have.

“My wife died of ovarian cancer in our bed,” he said. “And I really am sad a lot of the time. I often feel like I’m kind of a mess and I know these feelings apply to other surviving spouses, children, parents and other family members.

“But Amy gave permission to move forward and I’m so grateful for that.”

Amy’s letter, which went viral, described her husband as an “absolutely wonderful father”, “compassionate” and talented, writing out a ‘dating profile’ for him. 

“He is an absolutely wonderful father. Ask anyone. See that guy on the corner? Go ahead and ask him; he’ll tell you. Jason is compassionate — and he can flip a pancake,” she wrote. 

“If you’re looking for a dreamy, let’s-go-for-it travel companion, Jason is your man. He also has an affinity for tiny things: taster spoons, little jars, a mini-sculpture of a couple sitting on a bench, which he presented to me as a reminder of how our family began.

Here is the kind of man Jason is: He showed up at our first pregnancy ultrasound with flowers. This is a man who, because he is always up early, surprises me every Sunday morning by making some kind of oddball smiley face out of items near the coffeepot: a spoon, a mug, a banana.

“This is a man who emerges from the minimart or gas station and says, “Give me your palm.” And, voilà, a colourful gumball appears. (He knows I love all the flavours but white.)

“My guess is you know enough about him now. So let’s swipe right.”

“Because Amy gave me very public permission to also find happiness, I now have experienced joy from time to time. I’m a very fortunate person. I have the most amazing family that loves and supports me.”

And Jason has also received numerous emails from women wanting to marry him – with one woman saying if he “permanently stops drinking” and has “no other conditions”, she “promises to outlive [him]”. 

“I do like a good tequila. But how could I say ‘no’ to that proposal?” Rosenthal joked. 

He’d previously told PEOPLE that the letter “emotionally ripped [him] apart”. 

“I didn’t know exactly what she was composing,” he said. “But I was with her as she laboured through this process and I can tell you that writing the story was no easy task. 

“When I read her words for the first time, I was shocked at the beauty, slightly surprised at the incredible prose given her condition and, of course, emotionally ripped apart.”

“I don’t have the same aptitude for the written word,” he said. “But if I did, I can assure you that my tale would be about the most epic love story… ours.”

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Emily Reynolds is a journalist and author based in London. Her first book, A Beginner’s Guide to Losing Your Mind, came out in February 2017 with Hodder & Stoughton. She is currently working on her second.  

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