We see it all the time on Facebook: people share loved-up selfies with their partner, proudly declaring in the captions that they were “so lucky to fall in love with my best friend”.
However, some might question whether it’s a good thing to declare that your ‘bae’ is also your BFF, especially if your partner replaces other friendships – and Anna Faris certainly doesn’t think it is.
The actor – who separated from Chris Pratt in August after eight years of marriage – has reflected on some of the lessons she learned from their relationship in a new book, Unqualified. And, in an excerpt shared with Cosmopolitan, Faris writes about friendships and why Pratt wasn’t, and never needed to be, her best friend.
“I was once told that I didn’t need a tight group of girlfriends because Chris should be my best friend. But I never bought that,” she explains.
“The idea of your mate being your best friend – it’s overhyped. I really believe that your partner serves one purpose and each friend serves another. There’s the friend you confess things to and the friend with whom you do the listening. Or this is the person I talk to when I’m feeling lonely and sad, this is the person I talk to about work s**t, and this is the friend I’m still in touch with because we grew up together.”
Faris then underlines her problem with the concept of ‘best friends’ overall, adding: “To be honest, I think the notion of best friends in general is messed up though.
“It puts so much pressure on any one person, when I truly believe it’s okay to have intimacy with different people in different ways. And ranking your friends? It just shouldn’t happen, at least not beyond grade school.”
It’s not the first time that the Mom actor has called upon women to know their worth and reclaim their independence in relationships.
Speaking in a recent episode of her podcast Anna Faris is Unqualified (15 August), she advised listeners to “know your worth, know your independence, and know that you’re young”.
She went on to add: “There are so many people out there, there's so much life experience, I hope you get to live it all and experience a whole lot of people.
“Life is too short for you to be in relationships where you feel this isn’t fully right or somebody doesn't have your back, or somebody doesn't value you in every way.”
Revealing that these problems had sometimes affected her in the past, Faris continued: “Don’t be afraid to feel your independence if things aren't right. I made that mistake, I think, a little bit, like ‘I'm checking my relationship off the list’.
“If that would be the final piece of advice I could give you, it would be to know your worth, know your independence. There are so many people out there, there's so much life experience.
“I hope you get to live it all and experience a whole lot of people.”
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