Kendrick’s tweet touches on an important issue – namely, that deciding to come out on one’s own terms is a hugely significant moment for any member of the LGBTQ community. And while effectively shouting ‘I knew it!’ might seem like you’re saying that you don’t care about whether a person is gay or straight, it can undermine what feels like a major turning point in a person’s life.

“Even if you’ve always suspected this person was LGBT, it can be impolite or even offensive to point this out,” writes Miranda Perry for Care2. If you respond this way, Perry says, the person in question “may feel ashamed that it’s taken them so long to come out and they don’t need to be reminded of that struggle.”

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